sjaeger172004 Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 Hi I am not sure if allowed or how to explain this. I have my 1st Sexologist appointment with a disability developer; she is also a Sexologist. I am seeing her about Sex Ed as well as relationships. I am not sure whether or not to bring up that I am a member of a few ABDL sites or how to word it, Daily Diapers, ADISC, etc. (I only found them when I became incontinent after an accident via Google). They have been worthy sources of information as well as helping me to accept my incontinence issues as I can express and talk on there and get support. I am embarrassed I am on these sites, as well as embarrassed by some of the stories and pictures of dressed-up adult females in Nappies. Many thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valentinesstuff Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 Whether you bring them up or not will depend upon several things. Why are you seeing her? I am unfamiliar with what a "disability developer" is or does. They other big point is why do you visit Daily Diapers and other ABDL sites? And do these reasons intersect? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjaeger172004 Posted July 14 Author Share Posted July 14 (edited) 36 minutes ago, Valentinesstuff said: Whether you bring them up or not will depend upon several things. Why are you seeing her? I am unfamiliar with what a "disability developer" is or does. They other big point is why do you visit Daily Diapers and other ABDL sites? And do these reasons intersect? The therapist regarding 1st session "As your goal for these sessions is to learn about self-pleasure and sex toys, the first session is to gain a better understanding of what you are looking for in terms of sex toys and what you have tried in the past. It also involves us discussing your disability and problem-solving together. This likely involves going through some examples of sex toys (to be viewed on my laptop). Hope this helps". I have physical disabilities, Spinal and hands. I also have ASD, ADHD, and Bipolar. (The therapist has qualifications in developmental education and sexology) I go and post on Daily Diapers and other ABDL and other sites (like this one, not many for incontinence) for support for the incontinence as I had issues at the beginning and had no support, so basically had to learn everything myself, but I found out I "enjoy some of the content" which I am ashamed about At high school I had so many behavioural issues as I wasn’t medicated nor diagnosed correctly and I didn’t get any sex Ed and they only education I got is from the internet so I don’t know much and she will help me find a disability sex worker that is appropriate for me and disabilities as the physical incl the incontinence didn’t occur until I was in my early 20s in 2009 so still learning my physical boundaries as it’s a degenerative disorder with the spine. Edited July 14 by sjaeger172004 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valentinesstuff Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 First and FOREMOST! There is nothing to be ashamed about. Pretty much everyone out there has some sort of kink, don't worry about that. If you are experiencing sexual excitement from diapers or visiting the sites, then bring it up. The more info she has, the better job she can do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slomo Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 I'd recommend first asking yourself, what are diapers to you when it comes to your sexuality. Barely 20% of those on DD and ADISC are there purely for the sexual aspect alone (ie. A fetish or kink). For the vast majority, diapers can be, and are, a part of their sexuality but they also go way beyond just that. Being incontinent myself I can say diapers are not a requirement for my own gratification, but they sure can be a fun part of it. The biggest hurdle in accepting that (and even embracing it) is probably that misplaced stigma general society has place on adults needing or wanting diapers. Maybe your sexologist can help you in that regard, so yeah it probably is worth mentioning- nay, worth having a long talk about your diapers in relation to sex. Support sites and all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjaeger172004 Posted July 15 Author Share Posted July 15 4 minutes ago, Slomo said: I'd recommend first asking yourself, what are diapers to you when it comes to your sexuality. Barely 20% of those on DD and ADISC are there purely for the sexual aspect alone (ie. A fetish or kink). For the vast majority, diapers can be, and are, a part of their sexuality but they also go way beyond just that. Being incontinent myself I can say diapers are not a requirement for my own gratification, but they sure can be a fun part of it. The biggest hurdle in accepting that (and even embracing it) is probably that misplaced stigma general society has place on adults needing or wanting diapers. Maybe your sexologist can help you in that regard, so yeah it probably is worth mentioning- nay, worth having a long talk about your diapers in relation to sex. Support sites and all. The main reason I wear is incontinence, but I get excitable with the stories and adult entertainment videos and pictures 😢 . Sexuality in general as I want to explore different ways (as the 1st goal atm then relationships down the track) I don't know hence why one of the reasons I am seeing her Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Incont Posted July 22 Share Posted July 22 How did it go? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjaeger172004 Posted August 3 Author Share Posted August 3 Sorry I haven't replied sooner (life, health and work got in the way) It went great I had already said this to her in a previous email when I was mentally and physically unwell (Bipolar/ bladder/ spine and feet issues) "Here is the latest I posted annon on social media sexuality FB Page looking for advice for example... When I tend to get hyped up I tend to post this kind of questions annon on FB as well as Incontinence forums as well as diaper fetish sites (which were the only information supports I found on Google as no incontinence websites you are the only person I have told this due to embarrassment but until recently I have had no professional support or continence nurse and urology departments refused treatment (until recently) for support and no support groups in Australia) just for information on how to handle incontinence mentally as products which my continence nurse didn't even know the products existed eg Nappies I wear etc)" Sorry regarding formatting as copy and pasted Well the appointment went great this wasn't brought up at all I was asked what have I tried in the past and what things "interested me" and what things didn't and she made a few recommendations on somethings may interest me and might make things easier with IDC /foley tubing as I have been professionally advised by my urology dept I can pleasure and relief myself just not too ruff. Next session we are meeting at a sex store to look at Disability friendly items. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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