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  1. I've had this done before. They fill your bladder with water then immediately remove the catheter. The test is to see if you can empty your bladder right away, or not. It's done as part of a urodynamics test, or after you've had any retention problems or recent urinary surgeries. And yes, it's common to have leakage after a catheter is removed. Things should return to normal fairly quickly- unless there's some other underlying problem or condition. So absolutely make sure you have a spare diaper with you, or better yet just wear a diaper when you go to the test. (You can always remove one tape to take off the diaper for the test itself).
  2. Getting a full diagnosis can be really difficult, and many people just never get one. Sometime we just have to accept that what's happening is happening, and we just have to accept that. You may not want to wear a diaper every night, but I'm sorry to say you may have to accept you will. It's the same with needing glasses, hearing aids, wheelchairs, and such. That all said, there are steps you can take to try and help lessen your need for diapers at night. Seeing your doctor was the right first step. Now try looking into kegel exercises. Doing them during the day can help you at night. Try holding your pee a little longer during the day too. Not for too long, but even 10 extra minutes can help your ability to hold overnight too. Don't dehydrate yourself too much, but you can restrict water intake for an hour or two before bed. Not so much your pee will turn a dark yellow though as that can invite other problems. And don't drink alcohol in the evening (which given your age I assume you're not). The same for anything caffinated like coffee or tea. Lastly, while obvious it needs to be said. Make sure you pee right before going to bed, even if you don't feel like you need to.
  3. Mobility and incontinence issues aside, diapers do cover our genetalia. So is it really any wonder they can be incorporated into one's own sexuality? Of course not. After all, they do tend to end up warm, wet, and squishy while also rubbing up against ourselves a times. I've said this before and it's worth repeating. When life gives you lemons you learn to like lemonade or otherwise go crazy hating them. And when life puts you back into diapers, you likewise need to learn liking diapers or otherwise go crazy hating them too. And without getting into too much detail. I personally find it quite pleasurable to add some petroleum jelly to the inside front of a wet diaper. Then lay down on top of a pillow of favorite stuffed animal, and well... have some hands free fun. This method works especially well for me as I had my prostrate removed at age 42, and ever since then I haven't been able to get hard enough for sex with my wife. But neither my feeling down there or inate sex drive have been reduced, so being able to reach a climaxe is otherwise more difficult. Relying on diapers this way is more than a coping mechanism too, by being able to keep the diaper on while mastrubating I also don't have to worry about leaking pee all over. It also helps establish a "diapers are good" attitude, and well like I said, it's fun and feels great too.
  4. Slomo

    Fishy Pee

    I've been taking fish oil for over a decade now, and must either be nose blind to it or just well hydrated enough it doesn't matter. Either way, I never notice a fish smell from my pee. Asparagus though, that's a guarantee smell every time.
  5. I used to use these. They are pretty decent, and good for their cost. They aren't the best for using with plastic backed disposables though, unless you also add some sort of fixing pants or underwear in between them. That's because when a disposable leaks, that urine won't have anywhere to go. It absolutely will saturate the elastic edges and will quickly leak past them. But pairing them with any kind of reusable cloth diaper and they perform well. Also, you get what you pay for so don't expect them to last more than a year or so (life expectancy varies with how well you take care of them).
  6. Not to side track this thread, but the best I've found w/o a landing zone is Betterdry/Crinklz. We could definitely stand for something even better than this though.
  7. I did try their elite Premium ones for day and night (before they released the night time version) and about every other one leaked at the back of my legs. Mind you they were barely half saturated at that point, with the back of the diaper still bone dry. Thankfully my PUL pants saved me from also having wet pants. Of course, I get that same lack of performance with every diaper that has "no lower tapes". And these ones fit that description, with one set of tapes placed right at the middle of the back wings, and one more set placed above that. I just wonder how long it will be before one of these manufacturers start adding the third set of lower tapes. Now that is a great fit, which I've tested by adding my own extra tape. They end up being really snug, have almost no diaper sag when soaked, and no premature leaks.
  8. For the leg bag I can't recommend getting a leg bag sleeve well enough. It's elastic and comfortably holds a urine leg bag in place, even when it's near full. I got mine from Amazon as well. Also do an Amazon search for "adaptive shorts with side snaps". Some are more discrete than others and may require searching through the results.
  9. It's been a few years since I've flown for travel, but just today I flew to Niagara Falls NewYork for the upcoming solar eclipse. I had changed my diaper before heading to the airport, but being functionally incontinent I was a little wet going through security. And sure enough, as I went through the millimeter wave detector it flagged my crotch red. I was pulled into a private screen room and was matter-of-fact forward about my incontinence and that I was wearing a diaper. The agent was pretty chill out it, but said I'd have to show him. I did, and he said sorry-thank you, before I was on my way. Total time was only a few extra minutes. The funny thing is my go-to diaper is Crinklz (with the babyfur prints). They had a recent shortage though, and LL Medical had only just got Betterdry (plain white) back in, so I was wearing one of them. It would have been interesting to say the least if I was wearing my usual though. So does anyone else have any TSA or traveling-while-diapered stories?
  10. Been there, done that. I had severe urge incontinence with a neurogenig dyssynergia sphincter (blockage). The pain would get unbearable, and happened all too often. It tried it all, meds were ineffective and/or came with worse side effects. An interstim implant actually made things worse. And the only relief I ever had was when I was catheterized. Worst still was most urologist were quacks who refused to even believe I had a problem (I couldn't complete a urodynamics test by peeing out the catheter due to my blockage). Eventually I met a urologist at the Mayo Clinic, and he actually believed my complaints and worked with me to get that diagnosis. But I was so bad by that point I had multiple hemorrhoids, a bleeding anal fissure, gout, and indications my kidneys were in danger of shutting down. He wanted to do a stoma surgery (literally make a new pee hole), but i convinced him to do a series of sphincterotomy surgeries instead. He still hesitated saying the surgery would make me incontinent and reliant on diapers. But I countered it wouldn't since I had long ago already been urge incontinent and reliant on diapers. It ultimately took 15 surgeries, including removing my prostate! But I am finally able to live without constant pain. And with a plus of not floodings my diaeprs and worrying about leaks. Totally worth it. So yeah, you're not a freak for wanting to be diapered. Ps. I say when life gives you lemons, you learn to like lemonade. And when life gives you incontinence, you learn to like diapers.
  11. I've been where you are, and also had severe urge incontinence with a neurological dyssynergia sphincter (blockage). I too had botox done, twice. And each time it only made my problems worse. Which I also ended up with an indwelling catheter (IDC) for about 3 months when it wore off (not 6 months). I also had an Interstim implant, but that made things even worse. And forget all the useless meds I tried- and their bad side effects. The only time I was without pain or peeing problems was when I was cathed. As for comfort with them. Get a leg bag, AND with a sock/sack holder. Those straps don't work good, but the sock does. My urologist at the Mayo clinic eventually confirmed I'd be ok with the cath draining into a diaper. BIG caveat there though. You can't be prone to UTIs, have to drink cranberry or take cranberry pills every day, and must stay extremely well hydrated. So long as it's constantly flushing itself out, UTI risk stays pretty low. I'd also add, if you can get one, put a 1-way valve on the cath too. I did end up getting the surgery to become functionally incontinent. Which for me meant FIFTEEN sphincterotomy type surgeries. AND having my prostrate removed (due to developing a bad stricture blockage). I can confirm that being functionally incontinent (and stable) is MUCH better than living with constant painful urges and straining to pee.
  12. Yeah. I developed Gout by trying to restrict my water intake. It's a buildup of uric acid crystals in the hands and feet. And wow is it painful. I also had kidney problems from it too. You REALLY do not want to drink too little water. Bedwetting is nothing compared to Gout and Kidney failure.
  13. Yeah. When life gives you lemons you learn to like lemonade. And when life gives you incontinence issues you learn to like diapers. I've also never hidden I was abdl before I became incontinent. In a way that made things worse for me at first. I sort of felt like I was making up the excuse to wear diapers 24/7. Eventually I realized I loved wearing diapers AND legitimately needed them too. So embracing diapers was the best thing I've ever done.
  14. I'm really surprised by his response. You should never limit your water intake, and doing so can and will lead to a whole host of new problems. Heck, most any doctor will tell you to drink about 3 liters of fluids per day. And unfortunately yes, it is common to develop continence problems as we age. Especially in men over 40 as the prostrate enlarges.
  15. I've never been able to stay messy for very long. Mine are occasional flares of IBS-D though, which with a high acidity and runny consistency, is NOT the kind of mess you want to stay in for long.
  16. Incontinencesupport.org has a forum. Though about 10 years ago I got banned for saying diapers were a good thing and abdl isn'ta bad thing. So take them with a word of caution.
  17. I should also mention. I've found most urologists are all quacks who just like to throw pills at you to see if they will stick, or want to push some surgery they dont even know will help or not. I literally went through a dozen urologists in about 10 years. Not one of them even believed I had a problem, untill I met an actually competent urologist at the Mayo Clinic. If they refuse to listen to your concerns, can't seem to get past their own misdiagnosis, only want to consider pills or catheters, or just don't seem to remotely care. Those are all warning signs you need to drop them faster than the dead weight they are.
  18. I've had botox done twice. Once in the bladder wall to try and calm my urges. And a separate time in my external sphincter to try an weaken it so I wouldn't have to push so hard. Both times failed miserably and made me completely unable to pee. I had to be catheterization for 3 months while it wore off. And no, that behavior is unacceptable. You absolutely need to report him to a medical board or patient advocate. Then find a new urologist.
  19. What you eat will absolutely affect your bowell movements and smell. Though it also sounds like you may need an internal deodorizer. Chlorophyll tablets are the most common, sold at most any pharmacy, Amazon, etc.
  20. Too many times. Most commonly from a urologist than anyone else.
  21. That's my experience as well. At worst you'll get 1 or 2 diapers shredded up. Just keep them somewhere the cat doesn't normally like to hide and you'll be ok. It's dogs that will go after used diapers if you're not carefull. Always tossing them into a can with a lid will stop that too though.
  22. Lucky you? Truth be told, I can point down now too. But that's only after the urologists took my prostrate. Before that I was too "well endowed" and had to point up. Otherwise, even thinking about an erection was too painful to risk a kink in the hose.
  23. Taking antibiotics always gives me diarrhea. I can never trust it's just a fart when taking them. Thankfully I'm urinary incontinent (and abdl) so I'm always diapered anyways.
  24. Don't forget, when flying you can also check a bag of medical supplies for free (diapers absolutely qualify). Domestic or International. I always put them inside a duffle bag, and when returning I can usually stuff the bag in with my usual luggage. Just make sure the bag ONLY has medical supplies in it. They will check, and if it has anything else it won't qualify. I had a pair of dress shoes in with it once and they almost said no. I thought fast and said the shoes were specially made for high arches, as in medically. The agent didn't really buy it, but said ok anyways.
  25. It's all good. I've had to use worse diapers before, much worse. And the reality is everyone's body shape is slightly different. So not all brands will work for everyone. Though I believe you hit the proverbial nail on the head in going with a size medium. Wearing one size down will absolutely make the diaper fit tighter. Enough so to give a good enough seal around the legs even in spite of the lack of lower tapes. At least that's been my experience with wearing mediums as well. It comes at a tradeoff though. The diaper will have a very low rise, barely even extending up to one's hip/belt line, so leaks over the top become an issue (unless you point down, and change early enough). Having the back of the plastic shell split open becomes a sometimes problem too. And having such a tight fit, that when wet enough there's little room for the diaper to swell/expand, causing even more press out leaks. Let alone provide room enough for guys who are well endowed, and also need to point up. But like I said. Having this type of fit actually works for those with the right body shape. Enough people in fact that the manufacturers of these diaper types remain profitable. Which is great, and I'm all for it. Just not for me.
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