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This is good, though I'm not surprised. I've seen her videos for about a year now. She has MS, isn't ABDL, is very open about being incontinent and needing diapers, and shows what works good or not (for her).

We now have someone who is an adult diaper Influencer. https://www.vice.com/en/article/adult-diaper-influencer-bumble-pree/

Ah, that does "change" things a little bit. So yeah, it sounds like you would need the whole "kit in a caboodle". Though I still recommend trying to learn how to change while standing. The link @valentinestuff gave is a good one, I have something similar to it myself. Though really, just about any bag or case can be used as a diaper supplies bag, but it does help if it has multiple pockets. (Fyi, A caboodle was typically a wicker basket with a lid and carrying handle. They were often used for picknics and would hold an entire kit, including a blanket, utensils, food, drinks, etc)

I sit to change I do occassionally suffer with bowels I am planing to leave it in support workers car if we going shopping etc but long days eg public transport or a large distance from car eg expos etc is when I will take bag with me Thanks

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CJHL563C?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_fed_asin_title&th=1 I have one of these. It is quite large and bulky, but also carries quite a bit. You should look for videos of products to see what they will do.

Good question. Ideally you shouldn't need to do anything to maintain a positive self image. Are you less of a person for wearing glasses, or needing a sweater in the winter? How about using a cast when you break a bone, or any other support device when appropriately needed? So why fret over needing diapers when dealing with incontinence? In reality, society says we're somehow less of a person when we need diapers. So yeah, how do we deal with that. The ultimate answer is stop listening to others misinformed and misguided opinions. Easier said than done, I know. Really though, just keep doing everything you normally need to do. Don't let diapers get in the way of your life, and don't start hiding or skipping out of things for fear of being found out. Well, with the exception of swimming. Being submerged in water while diapered doesn't mix well. Everything else though, contine as normal, and eventually it will feel and be normal. You'll also come to realize that 99% won't even notice. And 0.99% that do notice, don't care. And the remaining 0.001% that notice and take issue are really the ones with a problem. Pitty them, and move on knowing you're diapered behind is way more normal than they are. Also, don't treat your diapers like they are a top secret weirdo fetish that nobody should ever find out about. That only feeds into your own misgivings. Sure, treat them as a private matter that normally wouldn't be openly discussed with someone unless it's relavent. In a sense, they really are nothing more than your underwear after all.

You need to learn to change while standing up. I find it's easier than changing while laying down, especially when out in public. It's a necessary skill too, as anyone who's traveled can attest. Especially with dingy public restrooms, or worse in a tiny train/plane bathroom. Do it by opening the diaper and holding it up to the back of your waist. Then slowly back up against a wall or closed door to hold the diaper there. Bend forward enough to grab the front of the diaper, and pull it up to your front waist. It's the exact same motion you have to do while laying down, so if you can do it there you can also do it while standing. Next, reposition the diaper as needed, and stick on the tapes in the same place you always do. And as long as you already know where the tapes are supposed to end up you'll get the same exact fit every time, lying or standing. As for a good diaper bag, pretty much any backpack, laptop bag, or briefcase will work. Unless you're bowell incontinent, skip taking along all of your supplies everywhere with you. You can easily skip getting extra clean and dry once or twice a day. So all you really need is a couple of clean diapers (never have just one on hand as failures and defects sometimes happen). Also, keep an emergency go-bag in your car or at work, but leave it there. This bag will have your extra supplies, including the changing mat, diaper cover, a pair of pants/shorts and socks, and of couse a few more diapers. Only when you get a catastrophic failure do you really need all of this extra stuff. Which as you get used to being diaper dependent this will happen fewer and farther in between.

How does living with incontinence affect one's self-perception and self-esteem? How can we maintain a positive self-image while managing this condition?

Well My Nurse Practitioner suggested I get a backpack big enough for my Diaper bag as I had to have a new assessment done I needed to sort out all the plastic-backed samples as Australia is no longer getting Bambino as well as I had to resort to using an added overnight booster (Distributer stopped with Bambino due to quality). Also, do you have any suggestions for a portable change mat? I need to hold a portable change mat as I can not twist and turn to change in a small restroom if no disabled restroom is available (quite often in Australia) as I don't want to either be in agony twisting and turning or sitting on a filthy public toilet. iPad Multiple Mega Mermaids (out of all the samples, this was the best fit, and it had velcro tabs) as I have issues with my hands as well as a wetness indicator Plastic pants Clothes (Shorts and onesie) Wipes Trash bags Portable charger Nintendo Switch Medications Portable Ventolin Spacer Etc Something that can also swing over a Mobility Scooter

that was kinda surreal to read ... thats the same as i use and pack down to the extras i only carry one .. its pretty big so takes up lots of space i make a point to take out the trash so im not impacting anyone else

Cranberry juice is probably the biggest one. Not for just helping to treat a Urinary Tract Infection, it helps promote a healthier and more stable urinary system. And if you don't like the taste, cranberry pills work just as good. Water is the next big one. It sounds counter intuitive, but being very well hydrated will absolutely help with many types of urinary incontinence issues. Obviously it won't stop or reduce incontinence itself, but it does reduce some of the pain, spasms, and severity that can come with it. You should aim to have a slightly yellow, or nearly clear, urine color for it to make any difference. It also helps reduce bad smells throughout the day, and helps a diaper absorb your urine better too. All because the uric acid will be dilluted. And we have probably all heard loosing weight will help too. In some cases, dropping 25+ pounds can literally cure urinary incontinence, including overnight bedwetting. Especially if it's diabetes related. Most diets don't really work long term though, which is what makes this so tough to achieve. The new weight loss pills do work, but only as long as you keep taking them. And if you ever go off the pill, that weight will slowly come back. The only real solution I ever found is simply getting used to be hungry all the time. Much easier said than done though.

What are some lesser-known natural remedies and lifestyle changes that have helped manage incontinence? Are there any specific herbs, exercises, or alternative therapies that have shown promising results in reducing symptoms?

Well, during December I had two very close calls, and 13 incidents which varies from heavy "skid marks" to a complete loss of control with a thick soupy mess.

For me. I'm always diapered 24/7, and always use really good protection. (Crinklz with a PUL cover). Traveling doesn't require anything I don't already need, other than to make sure I'll have enough diapers with me to last my trip. That's an average of 3 per day, plus 10% spares for just in case. I also use a washable bed cover for sleeping. It doesn't normally get wet unless I have a diaper failure or have exceeded it's capacity from too much drinking. So I usually only bring 1 or maybe 2 bed pads with me. And lastly, my parents passed years ago and the rest of my family is several states over, so I haven't visited them anyone in years either. But having had the talk, most all of my extended family know I am incontinent and diapered. I'd put my used diapers into a small trash bag, then each day I'd tie it shut and add it to the rest of the household trash. Often taking that trash out of the house at the same time.

So I'm wondering. How many just had to deal with any Christmas traveling or dealing with family, while also dealing with incontinence? Did you have to use any extra protection you normally don't have to? And did you have to let any family know or otherwise have them find out?

Considering I've found poop in my diaper and not known when it gout there, time isn't going to work. I am listing amount, a rough description, where and what I was doing.

If you always use a diaper then it's actually easy to figure out the volume. The weight of urine in grams also equals the volume in milliliters (ml). So use a kitchen scale to weigh a wet diaper, then subtract the weight of a dry diaper. The total grams is the total millileters of urine that one diaper had absorbed. So just measure each diaper when you change, and add the totals together for 24 hours. And there's your daily output. Do that for at least a week, then average out the totals to get your average daily volume. Here's a good example. https://tranquilityproducts.com/calculate-urine-output-from-diaper-weight/ Though as we've said, you can't really compare your actual volume of urine output to the total absorpion rating of a diaper. Those International Standards Organization (ISO) ratings are a made under perfect lab testing conditions. Real world absorption amounts are going to be under %50 the ISO amount, maybe even as low as %25. But those ISO ratings are a good starting place for comparing one diaper to another. The real numbers you will get are because each diaper will fit each person differently. And each one will work slight differently too. It all depends on how fast or slow you pee, how much you pee each time, how active you are, how much sitting you do, what kind of seal against leaks you can get with a particular diaper, and exactly how long you need to go in between each change. There are just too many variables for anyone else to give you an exact answer. Though in my opinion, and from the list you give. These 3 below will probably be a good place for you to start off with. Just pick one and have your continence nurse set it up to have it shipped to you. Then after a month report back to them on how well it's working or not. If not, then switch it with a different one. And repeat that for as long as you need, till you find one that really does work for you. TREST Elite Briefs Blue Incontrol BeDry Premium Premium NorthShore MEGAMAX

Sorry 2 questions How long did it take people to learn how much volume they leaked over a certain period and circumstances as I am struggling to figure this out. I had a meeting with my RN, who is doing my continence assessment and helping me find the correct products (as I have sourced most, if not all, the appropriate plastic-backed products I could in Australia). I am not sure if I am missing any, as these are what I was able to find. She stated that I will pee in different volumes in different circumstances. Sorry, this is all doing my head in Are there any Samples I am missing as require plastic backed due to allergies(as I have already received these and will be taking them to my appointment sometime in January which I have emailed the list to her I am looking for a good capacity of 1 or 2 changes per day and one change per night (I have Nocturnia and OSA) Rearz Lil Monsters Rearz Mega Critter Rearz Critter Caboose Rearz Mermaid Tails Rearz Safari NRU STR8up Adult Nappy Tykables Overnights Tykables Lil builders DinoRawrZ - XLarge PeekABU - Large TinyTails - Large LittlePawz - Large TREST Elite Briefs Blue Incontrol BeDry Premium Premium NorthShore MEGAMAX Mega Inspire+ Adult Diapers 11000ML Sample Pack - Incontrol BeDry Premium Nights Sample Pack 12000m

Ah yes. I remember the old voiding log. It really helps the doctors to understand the issues you're dealing with. In addition to intentional or accident, make sure you include the rough time. Include if it was a small, medium, or large bowell movement. And also include 1 through 5 scale of how solid it was. 1 being diarrhea and 5 being hard and constipated. Lastly, you may also need to track what you're eating and at what times. Good luck.

You wouldn't really be adding the lube inside the penis. While you are small, add it to the catheter, near or at the tip of your penis. Then when you get a normal size increase, the catheter will be lubricated at that part which would now be inside your urethra. It won't even be lubricated more than an inch inside you, but I found even that little bit made all the difference to prevent the catheter from causing any irritation at the internal part of your urethra. Alternatively, you can sort of push down on the tip of your penis to expose just a little more of the catheter (just don'tpush so much it will hurt). Apply the lube right there on the now exposed part of the catheter, then let go of your penis again. And sorry, I didn't mean the catheter was getting completely dried out. Only dry enough at the tip, where it would start rubbing just enough to cause that irritation and redness.

Being comfortable and confident diapered is the key

How do I add more lubricant inside the penis? Also I have no issues of drying out Sorry if using incorrect terminology as never had any "trauma" issues doing the "deed" before except rubbing skin raw now its internal issues sorry

Congrats on owning it, and double so for being so open about it. I also liked how you said it's better for pee to be out than in. And can attest to that as well. Not being able to stop yourself from going is nothing when compared to the life threatening pain of not being able to release it at all. At first I too also struggled with not wanting to be noticed wearing or even "embracing" diapers. And let me just say, a thin diaper that has leaked is WAY more noticable than a thick one that has done its job. Like you mentioned, you have to use what works best for you. And double so for using what's needed to be confident you won't leak. And yes, going from accepting incontinence to embracing diapers was big and freeing for me too. It really is a game changer for ones mental stability and stress reduction. I personally choose to wear Crinklz (with cute prints) instead of Betterdry (the same diaper but plain white). And while I try to never expose my diapers, in the extremely rare occurance someone sees them (dr appointments, massages, etc), I get far more compliments on the prints than any questions or complaints.

I was once in your same situation. Also with Botox, which made my retention much worse, and required indwelling catheters for a few months till it wore off. At first my pee drained into a bag, but I also wore diapers as I sometimes leaked past the catheter too. Eventually just letting my catheter openly drain directly into my diaper. And I too noticed I would get red and raw around the tip of my penis, with or without mastrubation. (FYI, all guys will normally experience size changes throughout the day, and were usually not even fully aware of it). It turns out my diaper was drying out the catheter when my penis was small, then when I'd get a size increase the skin would stick and rub against the catheter. I mentioned this to my urologist and he recommended applying a small amount of lubricant to the catheter at the tip of my penis. Doing so several times a day, or generally as needed to eliminate the friction rubbing. I found water based lubes didn't last long, and that petroleum jelly really works best. Eventually I ended carrying around some lubricated chap stick with me whenever I went out somewhere. If I needed to reapply some lubricant I could pop in to a restroom and use the chapstick. It worked great when "in a pinch". And yeah, applying extra lubricant before mastrubating made the experience much more enjoyable. Though I'll also add some advice my urologist told me. You need to make sure there is ample room in your urethra for your ejaculation fluid to flow past the catheter. So for example, if you could accommodate a size 20FR catheter, using a size 16FR catheter will leave enough space for accommodating the fluid. But using a 20FR catheter would not. And when you ejaculate, that added fluid will stretch your urethra, and potentially cause tears too. So talk to your urologist and make sure you're not using too big of a catheter. Use enough lube, enough times each day too, and you should be ok.