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I did try their elite Premium ones for day and night (before they released the night time version) and about every other one leaked at the back of my legs. Mind you they were barely half saturated at that point, with the back of the diaper still bone dry. Thankfully my PUL pants saved me from also having wet pants. Of course, I get that same lack of performance with every diaper that has "no lower tapes". And these ones fit that description, with one set of tapes placed right at the middle of the back wings, and one more set placed above that. I just wonder how long it will be before one of these manufacturers start adding the third set of lower tapes. Now that is a great fit, which I've tested by adding my own extra tape. They end up being really snug, have almost no diaper sag when soaked, and no premature leaks.

For the leg bag I can't recommend getting a leg bag sleeve well enough. It's elastic and comfortably holds a urine leg bag in place, even when it's near full. I got mine from Amazon as well. Also do an Amazon search for "adaptive shorts with side snaps". Some are more discrete than others and may require searching through the results.

It's been a few years since I've flown for travel, but just today I flew to Niagara Falls NewYork for the upcoming solar eclipse. I had changed my diaper before heading to the airport, but being functionally incontinent I was a little wet going through security. And sure enough, as I went through the millimeter wave detector it flagged my crotch red. I was pulled into a private screen room and was matter-of-fact forward about my incontinence and that I was wearing a diaper. The agent was pretty chill out it, but said I'd have to show him. I did, and he said sorry-thank you, before I was on my way. Total time was only a few extra minutes. The funny thing is my go-to diaper is Crinklz (with the babyfur prints). They had a recent shortage though, and LL Medical had only just got Betterdry (plain white) back in, so I was wearing one of them. It would have been interesting to say the least if I was wearing my usual though. So does anyone else have any TSA or traveling-while-diapered stories?

Been there, done that. I had severe urge incontinence with a neurogenig dyssynergia sphincter (blockage). The pain would get unbearable, and happened all too often. It tried it all, meds were ineffective and/or came with worse side effects. An interstim implant actually made things worse. And the only relief I ever had was when I was catheterized. Worst still was most urologist were quacks who refused to even believe I had a problem (I couldn't complete a urodynamics test by peeing out the catheter due to my blockage). Eventually I met a urologist at the Mayo Clinic, and he actually believed my complaints and worked with me to get that diagnosis. But I was so bad by that point I had multiple hemorrhoids, a bleeding anal fissure, gout, and indications my kidneys were in danger of shutting down. He wanted to do a stoma surgery (literally make a new pee hole), but i convinced him to do a series of sphincterotomy surgeries instead. He still hesitated saying the surgery would make me incontinent and reliant on diapers. But I countered it wouldn't since I had long ago already been urge incontinent and reliant on diapers. It ultimately took 15 surgeries, including removing my prostate! But I am finally able to live without constant pain. And with a plus of not floodings my diaeprs and worrying about leaks. Totally worth it. So yeah, you're not a freak for wanting to be diapered. Ps. I say when life gives you lemons, you learn to like lemonade. And when life gives you incontinence, you learn to like diapers.

I've been where you are, and also had severe urge incontinence with a neurological dyssynergia sphincter (blockage). I too had botox done, twice. And each time it only made my problems worse. Which I also ended up with an indwelling catheter (IDC) for about 3 months when it wore off (not 6 months). I also had an Interstim implant, but that made things even worse. And forget all the useless meds I tried- and their bad side effects. The only time I was without pain or peeing problems was when I was cathed. As for comfort with them. Get a leg bag, AND with a sock/sack holder. Those straps don't work good, but the sock does. My urologist at the Mayo clinic eventually confirmed I'd be ok with the cath draining into a diaper. BIG caveat there though. You can't be prone to UTIs, have to drink cranberry or take cranberry pills every day, and must stay extremely well hydrated. So long as it's constantly flushing itself out, UTI risk stays pretty low. I'd also add, if you can get one, put a 1-way valve on the cath too. I did end up getting the surgery to become functionally incontinent. Which for me meant FIFTEEN sphincterotomy type surgeries. AND having my prostrate removed (due to developing a bad stricture blockage). I can confirm that being functionally incontinent (and stable) is MUCH better than living with constant painful urges and straining to pee.

Yeah. I developed Gout by trying to restrict my water intake. It's a buildup of uric acid crystals in the hands and feet. And wow is it painful. I also had kidney problems from it too. You REALLY do not want to drink too little water. Bedwetting is nothing compared to Gout and Kidney failure.

Yeah. When life gives you lemons you learn to like lemonade. And when life gives you incontinence issues you learn to like diapers. I've also never hidden I was abdl before I became incontinent. In a way that made things worse for me at first. I sort of felt like I was making up the excuse to wear diapers 24/7. Eventually I realized I loved wearing diapers AND legitimately needed them too. So embracing diapers was the best thing I've ever done.

I'm really surprised by his response. You should never limit your water intake, and doing so can and will lead to a whole host of new problems. Heck, most any doctor will tell you to drink about 3 liters of fluids per day. And unfortunately yes, it is common to develop continence problems as we age. Especially in men over 40 as the prostrate enlarges.

I've never been able to stay messy for very long. Mine are occasional flares of IBS-D though, which with a high acidity and runny consistency, is NOT the kind of mess you want to stay in for long.

Incontinencesupport.org has a forum. Though about 10 years ago I got banned for saying diapers were a good thing and abdl isn'ta bad thing. So take them with a word of caution.

I should also mention. I've found most urologists are all quacks who just like to throw pills at you to see if they will stick, or want to push some surgery they dont even know will help or not. I literally went through a dozen urologists in about 10 years. Not one of them even believed I had a problem, untill I met an actually competent urologist at the Mayo Clinic. If they refuse to listen to your concerns, can't seem to get past their own misdiagnosis, only want to consider pills or catheters, or just don't seem to remotely care. Those are all warning signs you need to drop them faster than the dead weight they are.

I've had botox done twice. Once in the bladder wall to try and calm my urges. And a separate time in my external sphincter to try an weaken it so I wouldn't have to push so hard. Both times failed miserably and made me completely unable to pee. I had to be catheterization for 3 months while it wore off. And no, that behavior is unacceptable. You absolutely need to report him to a medical board or patient advocate. Then find a new urologist.

What you eat will absolutely affect your bowell movements and smell. Though it also sounds like you may need an internal deodorizer. Chlorophyll tablets are the most common, sold at most any pharmacy, Amazon, etc.

Too many times. Most commonly from a urologist than anyone else.

That's my experience as well. At worst you'll get 1 or 2 diapers shredded up. Just keep them somewhere the cat doesn't normally like to hide and you'll be ok. It's dogs that will go after used diapers if you're not carefull. Always tossing them into a can with a lid will stop that too though.