John Davis

I am particularly sensitive to pre-rash irritation in the skin folds of the diaper area. Airing out is a must to avoid irritation becoming an actual rash. To air out, I usually sit on a disposable underpad or on an open tabbed diaper. An advantage of sitting on the open diaper is that when done, or if there is an "accident," you can just tape up the diaper and get on with your day. If I am going to take an afternoon nap, that is a great opportunity to air out. However, I may experience "bedwetting" during the nap. I am on a disposable underpad, but could flood that, so, on top I place a very absorbent cloth booster pad. --John

Carer men’s incontinence briefs have a capacity of about 5 oz. That is good for dribblers but not for more significant incontinence. --John

Kit, do you know that reusable absorbent underwear usually comes with a rating for how many ounces they will hold? Look up the rating for what you currently wear and that will give you a basis to evaluate potential new products. --John

Good luck with your primary care doc. However, to solve your problem it is possible that you will need the skills of a specialist - a gastroenterologist. You might ask for a referral. I'm double incontinent with complex and serious gastro-related issues. Most issues required a gastroenterologist to adequately resolve. Mind you, when it comes to gastro issues, you may not find a perfect solution. I am sitting in a messy diaper while I type this as, from one day to the next, my meds cause me to swing radically between near-impaction to sudden defecation. The goal of the meds is to prevent impaction but often "overcorrect." Good luck from another retired military vet. I'm off to get cleaned up. --John

Frankly, I would gladly do without the front plastic taping panel as it limits the space between the tapes and restricts how we can tape. I can achieve a much better fit without the taping panel as the tapes are further apart and I can position them optimally. I do have fewer leaks this way. I would like to have a high-capacity diaper without the panel. --John

Yesterday I had an evening social engagement with family in a nearby town. To preclude the need to change at an awkward time and place, I wore an InControl BeDry Night diaper. Worn under my jeans, one could not tell that I had on a diaper. I wore the diaper for 9 hours by the time I was back home. At that time it still felt comfortable and had some absorbency left. I wore another BeDry Night diaper last night. It now is morning and I waited until after my morning coffee, news, and breakfast to change. I have had the diaper on for a total of 10 hours and, once again, the diaper feels comfortable. The diaper is rated for ISO 12,000ml maximum absorbency. Although I used a mere fraction of that figure, it did provide me with comfort and confidence. I have tried the InControl BeDry Premium with ISO 7,500ml absorbency and found it to be a great day diaper as well as suitable for nights. Next I need to try the middle of the three BeDry diapers - InControl BeDry EliteCare Premium - the one with ISO 10,000ml of absorbency. This diaper has almost as much absorbency as the BeDry Night diaper but at a more affordable price point. Has anyone tested this diaper? --John

Agreed. I just tried one and was dry and comfortable this morning. I have to wear my usual night diaper with a large booster pad and get better absorption from the BeDry Night. The very tall internal standing leak guards should serve those of us who also are bowel incontinent well. --John

Not overly hydrating is ok but restricting fluids is not a good idea. Concentrated urine can make you more likely to have an accident. Often just preparing for the bed wetting is the better way. I'm a bed wetter too. --John

The phrase "limiting hour fluid intake" permits you to take medications with a small amount of water. Don't skip your meds.

Inconinmiss hit the nail on the head. One day I was being examined by three highly qualified urologists who kept insisting that I stop using diapers and use a catheter. I explained to them that I had successfully used five different catheter systems but preferred diapers. I explained that when one has a failure with a catheter system it often is a catastrophic failure with urine on the floor (possibly on your host's expensive oriental rug). With a diaper I usually can hide a failure and that a failure for me is very infrequent. They refused to listen and I left. Plus, consider that I am double incontinent. The bowel incontinence would keep me in a diaper anyway. --John

I once had a group of three urologists coercing me to change from diapers to condom catheters. They refused to listen when I told them that I actually had tried more condom catheters than they knew about and that they were not a good choice for me. I have made them work but, when they fail, it can be a catastrophic failure with urine running onto the floor or your friend's expensive oriental rug. I usually can hide a diaper failure. I am not against condom catheters as they work well for many. I respect users as there is a learning curve that goes along with that choice. --John

Thanks guys. So far my new cat is still hiding during the bed and comes out sometime during the night to eat and use the litter box.

That's good news. Thanks for the feedback.

No, I am not looking for diapers for the cat. I am getting a new cat for the first time since I began wearing diapers many years ago. What can I expect? Will I find shredded diapers with SAP scattered everywhere? Seriously, are cats attracted to diapers (either fresh or used)?

Yes to reactions to medications - both toward diarrhea and toward constipation.