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  1. How do you guys/gals diaper up? Do you plan for the easiest diaper change or to stretch out the time between changes to the max? For me, an "easy" diaper change would be to wear only the diaper with no other layers on top (cloth pullups or plastic pants) that would make a change difficult. The idea is to avoid having to remove shoes and trousers in order to change. Of course, this choice runs the risk of a leaky diaper wetting outer clothing. I usually maximize the time between changes. To stretch out the time between changes I wear a premium tabbed diaper with a booster, a thin cloth pullup to catch leaks, and then plastic pants on top. I also wear a onesie to help support the diaper. This combination makes it very difficult for me to change without having to remove my shoes and trousers.🙁 Of course, some of you probably are more agile than I am. So, how do you optimize your diapering? --John
  2. Yesterday I received acupuncture from a local Chinese doctor who practices traditional Chinese medicine. I went for acupuncture to see whether it would help with the pain from my lower back. I have read that quite a few people have had success with this and Medicare even covers a limited number of sessions. Both my PCP and my SCI rehab doc approved of trying acupuncture. I have no previous experience with acupuncture or Chinese medicine. After the doctor debriefed me regarding my health and issues, he seemed to focus on my incontinence as well as my back. I did not expect this. Some of his needling was supposed to help my incontinence (his English was very poor so I was not able to get any detailed information on this). The session went well and with almost no discomfort. He surprised me by using electrostimulation via acupuncture needles in my back. It was like IFC TENS on steroid!! I cannot claim any change in my incontinence habits (yet). Has anyone else had any experience with acupuncture for incontinence? --John
  3. That is a large part of my reason for experimentation. Too many times my go-to diaper has changed or been taken off the market. --John
  4. I am so frustrated by medical practitioners who refuse to use the word "Diaper," claiming that it is humiliating for their patients. As Slomo indicated, it feeds the continuing stigma. If we cannot educate the doctors, how will we educate the general public? In many rehab and assisted living facilities the staff are prohibited from using the word "diaper." Too many people still feel that being identified with wearing a "diaper" means that they have lost their adulthood or maturity and somehow have reverted to being infantile. --John
  5. We talk about the need to be fully accepting of our incontinence in order to manage it most effectively. I have said that one of many indicators of “full acceptance” is the ability to use the dreaded “D” word - “Diaper.” Can you call it a “diaper” rather than “absorbent garment?” Of course, if you are in the UK, substitute the word “nappy.” Of course, this applies mostly to newly or recently incontinents. So, what does “full acceptance” mean to you? —John
  6. Are you experimenting with managing your incontinence? Are you reading and still testing new procedures, products and combinations of products? I think it important to always be checking out new things (products or procedures) that may help us. This is true even for those of us who may have been incontinent for a long time. I have been wearing diapers for about 10 years and had bowel incontinence issues for longer than that. I scan articles and newsgroups about incontinence and related products. I still find new things that help me. Even small things count. We may find sometihng new that works better for us. However, I suggest that, more importantly, being proactive in this manner can be very beneficial for our mental and emotional health. Asserting ourselves in this manner keeps us in control (insomuch as may be possible) of our incontinence. That is good for our emotional well-being. Our emotional health is as important as our physical health. What about you guys - what do you think? —John
  7. I usually am around seniors. Fortunately most of them have lost some hearing.🙂 I have been incontinent and wearing diapers for a fairly long time - about 10 years. The thought of others hearing my diaper noise concerns me, it does not worry me as much as it used to. --John
  8. I resent all the time lost for diaper changes. However, that beats the time required to have to go home to change wet trousers. As I also am bowel incontinent, think how bad that would be without a quality diaper - yuk!💩😱 I I hate the incontinence but appreciate the diapers. --John
  9. I am a heavy wetter and pee in my diaper in public frequently, but rarely have a leak. I wear a premium diaper with a booster pad, a thin cloth pullup, and a diaper cover. I know my capacity and time my changes. I have not had a leak onto my outer clothing in about three years.🙂 --John
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    David, where do you buy your diapers in France? --John
  11. I should note that the above topic came to me because, as I played bridge yesterday, I suddenly realized I was peeing my diaper. Not feelilng that I needed to pee or that I was about to pee, but going right then, with no warning.☹️ I was not able to excuse me from the table and just prayed that no one could hear me pee. --John
  12. Do you worry that someone will hear your diapers? Perhaps the rustling or crinkling sounds many diapers make? And, it is not just the diapers themselves, our plastic pants generate their own sounds. My wife could hear a my pair of urethane pants from across the room.😱 Admittedly, with some hearing loss, I am unlikely to pick up on those sounds, but others might. I think many women have better hearing than most men. Of course, my clothing does function as a "silencer." Over my diaper I wear a thin cotton pullup for absorbency but it also acts as a silencer. My onesie over diaper and plastic pants acts as another layer, and, of course, my jeans. Nonetheless, sometimes I can hear a faint sound and worry that the sound may sound louder to others. In most active areas, the sound levels help to mask any sounds from our diapers. Fortunately, most non-incontinents who hear our diaper-related sounds are not likely to recognize them for what they are🙂. What do you guys and gals think? --John
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    Bienvenue, David. Congratulations on coping very well with your incontinence. We look forward to hearing more from you. Your English is excellent. --John
  14. At night, I definitely would go for one of those baby diapers scaled up to adult size. I am very wet at night and could actually use the extra absorbency. --John
  15. Aggree re the scaling. Also, an article I read a couple of years ago extrapolated the size and padding of a baby diaper to adult size and determined that it would be so overly large that adults would refuse to wear it (even though it would perform its function very well). --John
  16. Zombie, one community (I forget where) last year classified used diapers as biowaste and required highly visible biowaste containers. As it was a city health regulation, those involved had no choice and were "outed" for all to see.😱 --John
  17. I forgot to mention that many inexpensive (read "cheap") diapers have no internal standing leak guards at all and depend on just the leg gathers. I avoid these like the plague. However, they may play a useful role as they are very inexpensive. --John
  18. Good point, Zombie. The awkwardness can work two ways. Those not accustomed to being around incontinent people often do not know how to handle the subject. They may feel embarrassed because they think we should feel embarrassed (although that may be incorrect). --John
  19. As the old saying goes: "If you wear cloth, you never run out of diapers." Of course, you also create very little trash. --John
  20. Some communities have authorized an extra bin for those with incontinence. The down side is that you must disclose your medical status in what in some instances is part of the public record. You may have to push for that special consideration. --John
  21. I just conducted some brief Google searches on the topic and located a few published medical studies that found a link between anxiety or depression and incontinence. Anxiety or depression are listed as "risk factors" with a fairly high degree of causality. It is good to know that it is more than just speculation on my part. In my case, very strong anxiety contributes to, or causes, bowel accidents. Medical studies said that this is related to the body's "flight or fight" reaction to threats. Under threats our bodies make more adrenaline and other physiological changes occur that contribute to both urinary and fecal incontinence. --John
  22. What about stress and incontinence? Although we all react differently to stress, there does appear to be a link. Whan I have a period of severe stress, my incontinence definitely is worse.☹️ Stress affects not only my urinary incontinence but also my fecal incontince.😱 During a bad period of stress, all I need is to have more bladder or bowel accidents, but they often do happen. I have had this happen enough in my life that I have established a firm link between the two - at least for me. Then, the reverse occurs. Bladder accidents, and particularly bowel accidents, spin me up emotionally and my stress levels soar even higher. That, of course, tends to stimulate more accidents. So, I think there is a linkage between stress and incontinence where each influences the other. Mind you, I am not aware of medical studies on this, although they probably exist. As I said, we all react differently and it may not be the same for you. How do you handle stress and incontinence? Does it affect only your bladder incontinence or also bowel incontinence? --John
  23. Very few people know of my incontinence. Those are close family, medical practitioners, and a very few others whom I trust. It is not so much that I am "hiding" the fact as that I do not advertise it. If you met me, there is no reason why you would suspect that I am wearing diapers.🙂 I wear highly absorbent premium diapers with a booster pad, a thin cotton pullup, and plastic pants, but my jeans and trousers have been selected to conceal the diaper very effectively. My biggest giveaway would not be my person, but the delivery of large boxes and a lot of trash I generate. --John
  24. I am very thankful for my diapers. But, it takes a lot of my time to plan, order, and inventory all my incontinence-related supplies. A con is all the heavy diaper trash that needs to be disposed. --John
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