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  1. Also online. Grocery stores and pharmacies only carry junk. It's one step up from the medical crap hospitals and insurance companies have, but still not worth it. They tend to be more expensive too (when looked at on a per-day cost, not per-diaper). So there's zero benefit to buying them. Online, and by the case, is almost always going to be the least expensive option. Plus, you'll be getting diapers that actually work without leaking. This all said, IF I somehow end up out of town and out of my usual supplies then I will look for medical supply stores. Usually they will have something half-decent enough to carry me over.
  2. Seconded. There is a definitive balance between too thin and too thick when it comes to the padding fluff.
  3. I too have worn my diapers to 100's of Dr appointments (not kidding). I've talked to CT and MRI techs about my diapers, and they actually prefer we wear one rather than risk it. Because if someone might need them but doesn't wear a diaper, that can mean the tech has to stop the scan, clean the bed, then restart the scan. It's more, and messy, work they prefer not having to deal with.
  4. For me, elastic waistbands are helpful. They make sure my diaper stays snug without getting too tight, and also help the diaper conform to my body shape. Of which helps contain any smells. They also help by allowing me to pull down the diaper for sitting on the toilet, then pull them back up into place. All without having to redo the tapes. I continuously dribble and can also attest to the standing leak guards helping, a lot. They reduce leaks around my legs, and really help to reduce leaks while sleeping on my side. I feel the premium diapers do have enough capacity and padding to take multiple floodings or all day dribbling for 12 hours (or more), so I'd say they are good where they're at. A few even go way beyond what's needed, but they're clearly for those who want to feel the bulk between their legs. Not really aimed or priced at those who want a diaper that will last through a work day. Wetess indicators are a waste. ANY decent caregiver will be able to spot a diaper that needs changing from across the room. Or smell it. And we certainly don't need them for ourselves. Plus, they only indicate when when the diaper has been first used, not when it's nearing any sort of capacity. So they don't even do any good. Indicators need to be left off. Tapes and plastic backing material could definitely be better and stronger. It's ok enough as is, bu5 just barely. I'd love to see getting rid of second chance tapes AND without needing a too-small tape landing zone. Three tapes per side would also be a big improvement. Though I'm sure all of that would mean more expensive diapers, which almost nobody wants. So that isn't likely to happen. You did overlook colors and prints though. While completely secondary to their function, I see plenty of request for more colors (especially blue or light blue), and non-babyish prints. Personally I like Crinklz though.
  5. It can be, but thin is not always discrete. A thick diaper that has done its job is WAY less noticeable than a thin one that has leaked.
  6. Hi all, I just got back from a week long cruise. Had plenty of swimming and lounging in the sun. And yes, I am fully urine incontinent. I wore something like in the link below, but mine is all blue and has boats and ducks on it. Nothing that screams babyish, but not adulting either. https://rearz.ca/dinosaur-adult-pocket-diaper/ I wore decent gym shorts/ teeshirt over it to and from the pool. With a baby diaper inserted into the pocket. It worked perfectly as I was able to discretely remove the baby diaper when taking off my shorts and shirt. And quickly reinsert it when drying off. Well, except for one time when I forgot to remove it before going into the water. Kept leaking pool water after I got out, so I removed the ladened diaper, and while drying off I was able to somewhat dry off some of the terry lining too. (Again, all discretely). That held me over just long enough to get back to my cabin. Other times with the slides I was able to quickly break a leg seal and let enough water out that I didn't leak all over till I was back in the water again. A word of caution though, make sure you have a snug-ish rise and fit. Otherwise a little of the left over water will make it sag in the back. Thankfully my wife pointed it out to me and I was able to readjust before anyone noticed. In and out of the water, not a single person batted an eye. Life guard, parents, kids, nobody cared, if anyone even realized. And yes I was being self conscious enough to to keep an eye out for others reactions.
  7. I not only prefer something that works, I demand it. And yeah, not enough fluff means a diaper won't wick or absorb enough. Usually resulting in a leak within 2 hours. I blame insurance companies that only look at the price per diaper, and want that price to be as cheap as possible. Never mind how much it actually costs on a per day, or per month, basis. They force an inferior product on people, and manufacturers only look at total sales. When they see an inferior product "selling", they adjust their marketing to sell even more. Then doctors and patients see those adds and perpetuate the cycle. Having abdl diapers has been a life saver. Both for my bank account and my sanity. And bonus, why not fun prints too.
  8. Ha, yeah. Agreed. Try saying that to a few urologists though. It will probably fall on dead ears. My underlying issue is/was neurological signals getting crossed, more physically so than mental as it resulted from a car wreck I was in. Not the same as you, but maybe somewhat adjacent to it.
  9. Slomo


    Hi. I'm finishing up a week long cruise right now. I'm functionally urine incontinent, and not once did I let that stop me from enjoying my vacaction. Pools and beach included.
  10. Slomo


    Welcome, and agreed. Getting over that "what others might think" fear is a big step. But like you said, you life improves quite a bit afterwards.
  11. I've been to a dozen different hospitals and surgery centers. Thankfully not a one of them was completely against diapers. A few nurses had wanted me to take it off when changing into that gown, but a little explanation of how incontinence works has always changed their minds. Depending on the surgery I've woken up without a diaper on. And some more nurses were hesitant to give me a new one. Though again, with some insistence I was able to get one.
  12. I've had WAY too many urologists over the decades. Some were absolute quacks who didn't even believe I had any underlying conditions. They literally told me I needed to get out of diapers, and could have done so if I just tried a little harder. Yeah.... I've also had a few that did understand I had urinary issues, yet still thought it was their duty get me out of diapers. Of course, to them that meant catheters, or a stoma (new pee hole in the belly button that also has to be catheterization all the time), or my favorite some medication they though would completely cure me. All I can say, is if anyone ever ends up with a urogist like that. Fire them immediately. It will be faster and easier if you just start over by looking for a different urologist.
  13. The closest I've come to that is a swim diaper that tries to make a full seal with dual elastic bands at the legs and waist. It's supposed to let you wear a regular diaper underneath. Except like I mentioned, that just doesn't work due to the small of the back. So unfortunately no, nothing I've ever found.
  14. I've went through a colonoscopy at 35 years old, and am about to go through it again at 46. I was mostly just urge incontinent back then, now functionally incontinent. The prep: Not going to lie, that medicine tasted land and nasty to me. Take it all at once if you can, but many docs will have you take half with a number of hours in between the second dose. No food from here out either. You will feel your stomach and intestines cramping, but it's not as bad as the worse cramping you've ever had. You will need to keep extremely well hydrated during this time too. Usually with Gatorade (no red or blue dies though), or some other electrolyte drink. The cleansing: The first time it hit me wasn't bad at all. Just a normal bowell movement really. Get ready though, because you're not done. From here you absolutely will need to have quick access to a toilet, like under 60 seconds. With my urge incontinence I kept my diaper on, but also made sure the tapes were just loose enough so I could pull it down quickly. Pants definitely needed to be off too, though I guess wearing loose shorts would have probably been ok too. From here, how comfortable is your toilet seat? The frequency and severity will get worse. No more painful or annoying than having run of the mill diarrhea, but enough you will not get very much warning. So again, being able to use the toilet quicky is going to be a must. And you can expect that to randomly happen for at least the next couple hours. For you, you may just want to set yourself up to stay on the toilet for 3+ hours. If not, then make sure you have 6+ diapers (with tall leak guards), and a bunch of wipes on hand l. At some point it will taper off to where only a little water will come out, then none even though you'll swear there's more to come. But you'll be cleaned out by then. Congrats, the worst is over. The procedure: You'll normally head to the surgical center or hospital 8+ hours (or the next morning) after that first dose. You can opt to stay awake for the procedure, I chose to be knocked out just to make everything easier for everyone. So I can't comment on the details here. Basically, they put a LOT of gas in your out hole, then insert a snaking camera with a really long wire. The gas inflates the colon enough so they can easily see everything. From there they proceed all the way up, but short of your stomach. Then back out and release as much gas as they can. Or so I'm told. Recovery: I went into the OR with my diaper on, and woke up without it in recovery. It's an uneventful recovery, and I didn't even feel sore anywhere. I diapered up, and waited. That's because they hold you untill you start passing the rest of the gas. And you will be letting them rip, which is normal and expected. Follow up: This is a normal doctor's visit. They'll go over anything they find with you then determine if/what anything needs to be done then.
  15. Slomo


    That's the best way of approaching it! I can't believe how often I've seen someone comment how diapers are the end of their social life. But in reality it's the exact opposite. Diapers enable you to get on with your life, to get out there, and remain social as ever.
  16. I've tried the sosecure, as well as a bunch of others. Personally, I don't like swim diapers that try and "seal out water" as I've found that never happens. Even when on really snug, they simply can't make a seal at the top-back. That's because the small of the back is concave shaped. And water absolutely will seep in there. Worse still, they will hold that water in at the bottom and around the legs. Making it baloon up and sag when you get out. And a really snug fit there will make it more obvious you're sloshing around water with you. There are two types of swim diapers I do like though. First is depends real fit, or adult swimmates (they are nearly identical in construction and absorbency, while real fit is cheaper but also falls apart faster). Both should be good for an hour at best, and should contain minor messes long enough for you to make an exit. Though you will also want to wear regular swimwear over them, as neither will stay in place very well, and can be embarrassingly revealing. The second type is a cheap (sub-$30) reusable pocket diaper. Most have a thin terry lining to make the pocket for an insertable pad. You can wear the pad on your way to the water, and discretely slip it out before going in. As well as discretely slip it back in after getting out. The terry lining helps hold just enough for making it to the water, or in between slides or other rides too. The "cheap" part is important though, because you actually don't want leak guards or a good seal around your legs. So when first getting out, quickly break the leg seal to let out any water that collected down there. And you should be OK for a little while, either before getting back in, or getting cleaned up and changed. And bonus, get the right swim diaper and you won't need an extra pair of swim shorts over it.
  17. Yeah, they inject the botox into your bladder wall to paralyze it some and stop those sudden spasms. But some residue botox can still mix with the urine in your bladder, which then passes by your sphincter and paralyze that too. Or so I'm led to believe is what happened to me. And from my own own experience with doctors; YOU need to research and learn every possible cause for your own symptoms, and their treatement options. Then take that knowledge to your doctor and let them figure out which diagnosis fits your symptoms best. And also try to guide them on which treatment you would like to go with. If you don't, then that doctor is probably going to shoot darts at your problem, hoping to hit the bulls eye. Usually in the dark, without seriously trying, and with using some other medication as the dart. Sadly, if you want real results you usually have to take the lead, because most doctors are just "practicing" medicine, not "performing" medicine.
  18. I also went the botox route, it's basically a bandaid for a deep gash. For me, it did almost completely eliminate my urges for about a month or two. But it also eliminated my sphincters ability to open up and let me pee. The two times I tried it, I quickly ended up with an indwelling catheter for a couple of months. Though I've also read it has helped others reduce or nearly eliminate their urges, without bad side effects. It's worth noting though, urologists will only do the procedure once every three months, yet it seems to never lasts that long. Also, each subsequent botox injection will be slightly less effective than the last. As your body slowly adapts an immunity to it. Some people can go several years where it still makes enough sense to get it done, but seldom few get more than that. So if offered botox it's usually worth trying at least once. But even if it works for you, I'd suggest still looking for other long term solutions.
  19. Of course you can, and should. Your primary care physician should know the big picture of everything that effects your health, incontinence included. The don't necessarily need to know all the details, but should know enough to look out for medication interactions, and also be able to refer you to a special urologist.
  20. I sit at a computer all day, in a private office, and draw nothing but lines. (If viewed close enough, a circle is made up of a bunch of short lines that each connect at a small angle). Text is nothing but lines too. My particular way of drawing lines is called electrical engineering. I am functionally, urinary incontinent. And I wear a premium diaper that I can trust will not leak for 12+ hours (Crinklz). I change in the morning before I go to work, and usually don't need to change untill well after I'm home and it's close to my bed time. For the few times I need to change while at work, I'll go to my car and grab a spare diaper. Take it in hand to our small restroom, and change in the one stall we have. My old diaper then gets tossed into the one trash can we have (used mostly for paper towels).
  21. I reside in the spiral galaxy we call the Miky Way. It's right next door to another spiral galaxy we call Andromeda. And one day out two galaxies will collide, but not for a long time though. Well look for about 3/4 the way to the tip of the smallest spiral arm, and about 1/2 the way out from the center. We call this short spiral the Orion spar, and that's where I'm from. Not close enough, ok in that area you'll find a medium sized, medium aged, white star. We call it the Sun. And the 3rd planet in orbit of the Sun is where i'm located. We call it Earth. Though some of my people believe it is flat, it is indeed round-ish just like every other large body of mass in the universe. You'll know you've found it when you see the blue atmosphere. Formed from all the water that covers 2/3rd of the surface. And looking at our white Sun, through our blue atmosphere, makes the Sun look yellow. Or even red at first or last light. I live on one of those land masses. Look for our biggest ocean of water, we call that the Pacific. To the east (direction the Sun rises at first light) of that ocean is a big continent of land mass, we call the America's. Now, get a small magnet and float it on water or hold it from a thin string. Where the positive side points is what we call North. I live north of where that land mass gets smallest. And also north of where the land is very dry, which we call Mexico. This northern land we call North America. And also as far east as you can go before coming to our other ocean, we call the Atlantic. And this area of North America we call Florida. Still not close enough? OK. There are 7 very large cities in Florida. Cities are places with many tall building, all very close together to each other. Of those 7, I'm at the north-east one. You'll know it when you see a big elliptical road going all around the city. It also has a big river of flowing water running mostly through the center. This river also flows north, which is the only one in all of the North America's that flows north. And this city we call Jacksonville. But that's as close as I'm going to tell you. If I gave you any closer to my exact location then those weirdos who think our planet is flat will find me too. Too Long/Didn't Read (TL/DR) all that. I'm from Jacksonville, Florida, North America, Earth, Sun, Orion Spar, Milky Way Galaxy.
  22. I put in my chronolical age (46), but that doesn't match my biological age (about 66). Now to explain, I'm a time traveler. Wait no. Aging and healing are directly linked. We known that out cells can only multiply and divide a certain number of times before before we die of old age. We also know that healing from major injuries require our cells to multiply an unusually high number of times. And that literally robs from our cells end of life. It literally robs how old we will be able to live. Though a better way of looking at it is conversely so. The effects of aging can be seen and verified in those who have recovered from major injuries. Often right after thay have healed. Such as having aching joints, feeling the barometer change, not being able to do what you used to, etc, etc. All normal ailments for those in an older age group. In 1996 I was 18 years old when I got into a bad car wreck. But in just 5 years of healing and rehab I could just feel it. I had aged 25 years in that time, if not more. I even had the same ailments as my parents, and other people 20 years my senior. And while I'm still shooting to hit 80 years old one day, that would be like someone healthy hitting 100.
  23. I'd say IF you are experiencing very painful urges, then even a 30% pain reduction just might be enough for someone to still get it done, even though it likely won't eliminate this urges or get you out of diapers. It's a tough call to be sure, but do think twice in getting it done if you might also be dealing with other underlying issues. Such as I was with my neurological dyssynergia. And also note, the ONLY way to completely get rid of bladder urges is to prevent your bladder from filling up. Though there are a couple of options to do so. Such as an open stoma (new pee hole at your belly button that will constantly leak), or obliterating your internal and external sphincters via many sphincterotomies, or if you can convince a urologist to do it, a total sphincter-ectomy (go in through the skin and micro-surgicallally remove both the sphincters in one go.
  24. Slomo


    Hi. Absolutely! Just knowing you're not the only one in the world dealing with something goes a long way in helping. And you're not alone.
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