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Same. I've already said this in a couple of other threads, but refusing to call them what they are only breeds confusion and heightens the stigma. I'm also a big advocate for calling things what they are. And if someone calls my diapers something else I will typically correct them on it.

I've watched the abdl forums for a looooonnnnggg time. And can say for certain they do not undermine what we are trying to achieve. At least the vast majority don't. And when some abdl does crop up in a bad way they are shot right back down. Policed by their own community. In fact, I'd say the 30-40% of abdls who also have a diaper fetish are hidden so far in the closet they might as well be top secret about it. And the rest just want the idea of adults wearing a diaper (regardless of a physical OR psychological need) to be more socially acceptable. No forced exposure in public, except in places where it's already ok to be less dressed (like a locker room or at the beach). They just want the ability to be in public, with a diaper on, and not have to feel embarrased or be in fear of being found out. Pretty much like the rest of us.

It is not childish to need to wear an adult diaper. What is childish is to be in denial about your body's medical needs. Wearing a diaper does not make you any less of an adult. I am a bit conflicted here. Do public displays of ABDL and infantilism create public attitudes that are antithetical to what we are trying to achieve? (please note that I am focusing on "public displays." I am not against anyone choosing to be ABDL. Good discussion. --John

I just think that stigmatizing people who wear diapers by calling it something else is wrong and erasing reality erases the reality of what diapers are. It's why i refuse to call diapers briefs and go along with the medical community. It's why I call them diapers because that's what I wear.

I just think the term "brief" is derogatory and implies being ashamed and shamed for being kept in diapers. It's why I fight so hard change the name back from "briefs" to Diapers because that's they technically are called. Calling it something else just reinforces the stigma and shame associated with incontinence. Beside's there's nothing wrong about being in diapers or having Incontinence.

So I think that there are very different views on the subject. There was once a patient survey in England where I just can not find the link, but the result was that the fewest patients preferred the term "diaper". You can certainly set up a lot of theories about why this is so - but the fact is that it probably does not come from the nursing staff. In Germany, I learned that you should use the term that the patient uses. That's how it's usually done here in verbal communication. In the diagnoses, you read all sorts of things - but mostly the abbreviation IKM, which stands for incontinence aid.

I'm like that too. I am on a warpath to make diapers feel normal. I try to fight so hard to use the word "Diaper" instead of Briefs. The word "brief" makes it feel like I should be ashamed for wearing them. It's why I am not ashamed to say I wear diapers and I wear diapers to cope my Incontinence. The problem I see is that in society and the Medical community they want to hide the notion of people who have incontinence issues and wear diapers. It's kind of funny that society is okay with babies wearing diapers but when it comes to a child, teen, adult, elderly or disabled. They seem to change the name and not stick to reality and stick to facts. For me, I still call it a diaper no matter what society and the medical community calls it. I call it a diaper regardless and I see it for what it is. Calling it something else imply's I need to hide or feel ashamed. It's why I am not afraid, ashamed or humiliated for wearing a diaper. I never use the term that the medical community wants to shove down our faces. It's why I am one of those who hate the word "brief" and when someone in the medical community says that, it makes me feel shameful and makes me think that their is something wrong. I feel that there isn't anything wrong and we shouldn't encourage shame in people who need diapers. I wear diapers and I know I am not ashamed about that. To me, a Diaper is what helps me get by in life.