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  1. Sorry but I'm not seeing how this is different from the last question you had. Have you tried any other diapers to see what works best for yourself?
  2. Yeah, that's lucky and good for you. Most people don't have good insurance, and samples (1 or 2 diapers) are only good to verify if the size will generally fit or not. It's not enough to truly test them out. For that you need different situations and scenarios. Like different hydration levels, varying activity levels, and so on. The idea is to put each diaper type through vigorous situations, and see how well they hold up (or fail). One day when at home purposely try and see how long you can keep wetting a diaper too. And take note where and how badly it leaks. That way you'll know when it normally needs changing, and how far to -not- let it go for. Trying to maximize each diaper usage if folly and a setup for public leaks. So once you've got that, you'll know when a diaper can no longer be trusted to not leak. And you'll know when it's appropriate to change. Also play around with exactly how you place the tapes with each change. Angle them slightly up one time, and down the next. Straight across another, and tapped snug versus tight. All of this can and will effect the reliability and capability of each type of diaper. If you ever work out or go for walks/jogging, make sure to test a diaper at least once there too. But expect some failures, and always have a backup change near by. I keep two spares in my car, since I'm never too far from it anyways. And always wear a PUL diaper cover when testing them. Plastic diaper covers are probably ok too, but they aren't as durable, are more noisy, and are more prone to failures too. If you can, try overnight diapers for during the day too. Just wear baggy or relaxed fit pants. Jeans are ok, and pleated front slacks are better for this. Black is your friend here too, as is wearing pants that are 1 or 2 sizes larger than normal. Combined with a PUL cover and they will hide even the most bulky diapers quite well. Remember, we are more self-conscious a out our diaper than others are. And besides, others are usually so deep into their own lives they will not notice as much as you think they will. And for the small percentage that do suspect, or know, far fewer will say anything at all. Abive all else, the key take away here is to wear whatever diaper works the best for your needs. And that a bulky diaper which has done its job if far less noticable than a thin one which has leaked. And only after you've got the right diaper on should you take into consideration other secondary factors. Things like discretness, others noticing, or even what the diaper looks like on the outside. Confidence in this will be tough at first, but with every day it will get easier.
  3. Forget wetness indicators. All they do is tell someone else that you are wet, and not even how much wet for indicating if you need a change or not. Your two best options are figuring out about what time you will normally need to change. Or second, periodically checking your diaper. I find you can pinch the back seat of your diaper. Discretely of course. This will tell you really good if you need a change or not. I've mentioned this already, but only you will really be able to tell which diaper you need. Plastic backed, and a higher ISO rating are good places to start. And I personally recommend Betterdry. But everyone's body is different, and each manufacturer makes differently shaped diapers. So what works good for one person will not work at all for another. Unfortunately, you need to try out each diaper to see what works for you. Buy just one bag of each major type, and test them out for at least a few days. Note the best 2 or 3, then make a request for those types to your Dr or insurance. I know this isn't what you want to hear, but there it is. On the plus side, you'll know of a good backup diaper you can go with. If there are any supply problems (or better yet, sales), you'll already know which one or two to fall back on. Which is much better than panicking because you can't get your normal diaper for some reason (which will eventually happen).
  4. Unfortunately no. But you can make a simple argument for it. It really boils down to total numbers of diapers needed per day times the cost of each diaper. Depends could be something like 12 diapers X $0.60 each- or $7.20 per day. Versus my Betterdry, which is 3 diapers X $1.75 each- or $5.25 per day.
  5. Trick for what? They help keep your skin cleaner, but won't really do much to stop an infection. If that's your worry then I recommend adding cranberry juice, or taking cranberry pills. Now those help maintaining a health urinary tract.
  6. Firstly, have you tried a "catheter bag leg sleeve holder"? They work the best for catheter leg bags. They can be slightly tight, but don't slip as much. They worked ok for me, but ultimately not ok enough. So I've been exactly where you are now. Leg bags were a pain, so I asked my Dr about letting my catheter drain into a diaper. He too said yes, but with two major caveats. First you can't be prone to getting UTIs, and if if you do get any signs you have to make a trip to the ER right away. And second, you absolutely must stay well hydrated. Like 3+ liters of fluids per day. That way the catheter is constantly being flushed out which decreases the chance for a UTI. I found pointing my penis up, then gently looping the catheter back down, worked the best. That will put it towards the middle-front area of th3 diaper. As for the type of diaper you're using. A plastic backed 5000ml ISO is about what you'll need. So what you have should be ok as long as it fits your body shape good. Those "no lower tapes" diapers never fit me right though. Either they are snug and leak around the legs way too soon, or they are tight enough to create a seal but are so tight they cut off circulation, are more prone to splitting open, and having tapes tear off from the backing. I personally found Betterdry or Crinklz are the current best out there for me. I know Australia has its own set of supply and cost problems though, so I encourage you to get 1 pack each of whatever different diapers you can. Test each one out for a few days, and see what works best for the price you pay. Then see about making an insurance request for the top two or three you like best. Also consider getting a PUL diaper cover for wearing over your disposable diaper. They really help you to detect a leak before it becomes outwardly noticable, and they reduce the crinkling noise of the diaper. And as a couple last tips from this diaper-guru. Get used to discretely pinching the back seat of your diaper. This tests for how wet it is back there, which can really sneak up on you when using a catheter. And also carry a small squeeze tube of chapstick with you. The diaper will dry out the catheter at the tip of your penis. Which that makes the normal size changes we get to stick and sometimes become painful. A quick trip to the bathroom and you can apply some chapstick to the catheter there. That will stop it from drying out for at least a few hours.
  7. So as many already know, I'm functionally urinary incontinent (I constantly leak pee due to previous complications and subsequent surgeries). And as some may know, I'm also abdl and a furry, and have embraced my need for diapers. As such, my go-to diaper is Crinklz (the betterdry version with babyfur prints on it). Anyways, I recently developed an abcess on my groin, so it was off to the Dr for some antibiotics. He already knows I'm diapered, though I usually keep a few plain white diapers on hand just for this situation. It tends to make things less awkward. But of course I'm out of stock and only have Crinklz. Oh well, I couldn't put this off. Sure enough, he did need to verify the infection. And of course he needed an attendant there too. So I dropped my pants, and then my PUL diaper cover. He must have thought that was my diaper, because before I could pull it down he bent over and got a good look at my Crinklz. He immediately said "oh", then "sorry". Talk about embarrassing, though it was all my fault. My Dr did stay professional the whole time, but after I got dressed again he asked if he could ask about my diaper. I said yes, and he said started with asking if I'm ok having to use them. I said I actually prefer them, especially since it's much better than the alternative of not being able to pee at all. He then said he never saw one like it and asked what kind it was. I told him about it and Betterdry, and how they actually work really well and last much longer versus Depends and the like. He then asked about the supplier and cost, so I mentioned LL Medical and North Shore and also pointed out they can easily work out to be cheaper than Depends. He seemed genuinely impressed by them, but also just had to add they were "cute" too. Still an otherwise positive reaction, so I'll take it. Ps. It's only been a day but the infection already hurts less. I should be fine within the usual 7-10 days.
  8. I can understand the guilt of incontinence adding to ones impact. But don't let reusable cotton fool you. Cotton takes a massive amount of water to grow, and it strips the land of nutrients. Meaning those nutrients need to be mined and trucked in to replace it. Not to mention it also takes tons of processing to turn it into a usable thread. And just as much to turn it into absorbent underwear. And don't forget the added water used to wash it 100 times, not to mention the harsh detergents. Don't get me wrong though, I'm not saying disposable is any better. If anything disposable and reusable are about as equally bad for the environment. Because disposables are taken from the ground as oil, highly processed to make the plastic. Though greatly offset by adding a lot of byproduct wood pulp, which decreases their carbon footprint. And when used, disposables are overwhelming tossed in the trash, which ends up getting buried in a landfill, further sequestered the carbon of both the plastic and of the wood pulp. That's why I recommend forgetting about their impact and just using whatever works best for your situation. Such as disposable being better for concealing and ease of use, versus cloth being less expensive in the long run and better for heavy wetting. And if you still feel bad about it, then increase how much you recycle. Buy more organic foods, and less packaged items. Get a highly fuel efficient vehicle, and even buy into renewable energy production. I've done all of those, and while it's all more expensive, I have no trubble sleeping at night because of my carbon footprint. For the OP, adding to the landfill should NOT be a determining factor. Though expense is quite valid. As long as you're able to spend more upfront for a good quality reusable cloth diaper and cover, they you'll absolutely have a lower expense in the long run. Though with moderate incontinence, threaded armor probably won't be absorbent enough. They are best used to replace pullups for people with minor incontinence. You'll need to look into actual pin on cloth diapers, though with moderate incontinence you can probably get by with fewer or thinner layers. Combined with PolyUrethane Laminate (PUL) pants, and they should work wonders for you. I personally recommend https://adultclothdiaper.com/ as I've always had good dealings with them.
  9. Good on them. We actually need more ads like this too. Waaaayyyy too many people are led to believe grocery store and pharmacy bought pullups will work for anything more than the occasional stress incontinence (light dribbles), let alone enuresis (sleep wetting).
  10. I was once told similar. It turns out, catheters are only about as long term as botox injections. Meaning they aren't a permanent solution, and one day you may find they aren't much of a solution at all. It also turns out, there are always other solutions. Your urologist is just too lazy, doesn't believe your problems are as bad as they are, or just doesn't care about you. So it's time to find another urologist. At least, that's been my experience. You didn't mention your problem, but I had a neurological blockage (nerves got fried or crossed or something). I went through a dozen urologist, and one of them also said I should just permanantly use catheters. So I did, for about 7 months (with a new catheter every month). Even had me change them out at home. Right up until I developed a super sensitive urethra and the pain got to be too much. Ultimately I found a really good urologist at the Mayo Clinic. He wanted to do a stoma (diversion to a new pee hole), but I convinced him to do a series of sphincterotomies to make me functionally incontinent. That's a story in itself, but needless to say I'm now stable. As for dealing with the catheters. Lubricate it constantly. Preferably with a non water based lube, as water based will be quickly absorbed by the body. Leading to a dry catheter that will pinch and pull on your member every time it changes size. I found old fashioned petroleum jelly worked best. And in a pinch, lip balm did too.
  11. I'd recommend first asking yourself, what are diapers to you when it comes to your sexuality. Barely 20% of those on DD and ADISC are there purely for the sexual aspect alone (ie. A fetish or kink). For the vast majority, diapers can be, and are, a part of their sexuality but they also go way beyond just that. Being incontinent myself I can say diapers are not a requirement for my own gratification, but they sure can be a fun part of it. The biggest hurdle in accepting that (and even embracing it) is probably that misplaced stigma general society has place on adults needing or wanting diapers. Maybe your sexologist can help you in that regard, so yeah it probably is worth mentioning- nay, worth having a long talk about your diapers in relation to sex. Support sites and all.
  12. TLDR: Don't. But if you do, use caution. This is a good question. I've been there. And yeah, done that too. Even cleared it with my urologist beforehand. The answer is murky though, so if you can avoid mastrubating with a catheter in, then it's best if you just wait. The size of your urethra, and size of the catheter, are what will really determine if anything bad might happen. Say that IF you could accommodate a 20FR catheter, but only have a 12FR in place, then there's room enough to take that sudden influx of ejaculation fluid. But if it's a 20FR/20FR setup then you could potentially stretch or even tear your urethra- leading to needing a catheter for even longer. Also, if someone is thinking of doing it right after any kind of urethral, sphincter or prostrate surgery, just don't. My situation was about 3-4 weeks after a sphincterotomy, and my catheter was small enough, so I went ahead and "took care of it". First though, absolutely make sure your catheter is extremely well lubricated. Push the tip of your penis down to expose as much of the catheter as you can (but don't pull on the catheter itself). Use only water based lube, and make sure the lube gets well down and inside there. When I did ejaculate I did have a feeleling of lots of pressure, but it dissipated quickly. It was almost a complete retro ejaculation at first too. (Where it all goes in the bladder instead of coming out). That in itself isn't a problem though, just a weird sensation. I ended up slowly leaking more fluid out and around the catheter too, so I'd recommend also wearing a pad or diaper for after mastrubating too. And this last part shouldn't have to be said, but I will anyways. If after cumming you feel ANY pain at all, or start leaking or peeing blood. Get yourself to an emergency room asap. Own up to it and be honest about it so they get you checked out properly. It may be embarrassing, but they've seen worse. And any delays can lead to even worse long term problems.
  13. Scientists once said the same thing about glasses. They aren't normal, and using them allows the eyes to get worse. And by always straining to see without glasses, you will keep your vision natural. Personally, I prefer to use my glasses. And diapers.
  14. A suppository loosens stool to help you poop when you're constipated. An enema is for flushing out stool when you can't go or need to be partly emptied out. Enough so you likely won't need to go again for at least a few hours. Neither will work well enough to completely empty you out for a colonoscopy. For that you'll need to take some prep solution. It can be a prescription that tastes absolutely horrible, or a massive dose of mirlax. I've had 3 colonoscopies and the mirlax works (and tastes) much better- but that just for me. Either one will need to be paired with a whole lot of water. None of this will address fluid retention or urinary problems though. That completely separate.
  15. Also. HA, I CALLED IT! OAB really IS dr code for "something is wrong with your bladder but we don't really know what. "Most researchers agree that the main obstacle to finding more effective treatments for overactive bladder syndrome is that the diagnosis is so muddy: Rather than a single disorder, it’s a loose group of symptoms that can be caused by many different conditions...."
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