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3 hours ago, Slomo said:

Absorbent brief, pad, pullup, pampers, diaper.

We've all heard them call one thing or another, but so seldom do we hear them called what they are. Diapers. (To be clear, I'm referring to a disposable adult brief which has tapes or tabs. Either cloth-like or plastic backed).

Someone once said a rose by any other name would smell just as sweet. I say not if you call it putrid stink weed of instant death.

 

To me, proper names actually are important. If you say you need pampers, then be ready to try and squeeze into a diaper that's 10 sizes too small. Pads, hope you don't plan on getting up anytime soon. Or pullups, hope you don't need something more absorbent. Like an actual diaper an adult might need.

I've even been played by this bad wording too. In a hospital I reported I needed diapers. The nurse said ok, let me bring you some pads. And sure enough, what I got was not the diaper I needed. Nor would the actual pad I got be what I needed when going to my physical therapy.

Look at it this way too. Most would recognize there is a generalized stigma among the public towards anyone other than a baby or senior needing diapers. Yet we here are proof that is completely false. By refusing to call them diapers, people only play into and perpetuate that stigma.

My advice, don't let the stigma get to you. Do you ever feel embarrased by needing spectacles or glasses, braces or casts, or well you get the idea. And the next time (if ever) someone tries to give you a hard time over "diapers", just know that's all on them. And that person is to be pittied, not be embarrassed by.

I have seen call my diapers Briefs and sometimes it feels like they are trying to hide the reality that they are diapers.

1 hour ago, Slomo said:

I didn't mention this before, but too have gotten only good remarks from medical professionals for choosing other than a plain white diaper, usually "cute" as well.

I'm led to believe the fears of "what if", "fetish", "pedo" and the like are just that. An unfounded fear.

In my experience, I have had nurses and doctors made good comments to me about my diapers and how cute they look on me. They often ask me where I get them and I even leave copies of stuff from Northshore to show other patients that their are far better diapers than store brand ones. All the medical staff that take care of me know I wear diapers and prefer diapers over pull ups.

1 hour ago, Slomo said:

I can't second this enough. The whole point of a diaper is to not leak. If it does, then you need a better diaper. Sadly, "better" is NOT something you can find in any pharmacy or food store.  In the US anyways.

 

Online really is the only sure way to find what you need. And northshorecare IS one of them.

Note: Yes you CAN get them online. Many stores sell pre-paid visa cards. Just add enough for you order and you can use it for online purchases. FedEx and UPS also allow for shipping to other than your address too. Just verify where first (often wallgreens, wallmart, other drop locations or even their nearest distribution center can hold a package for pickup).

That's why Store brought diapers are pure crap. It's why I would never use store diapers because I would leak for flood them

As for shipping them to places other than home. I know Fedex and UPS have their own ship centers and even Fedex office allows you to ship items to a nearest Fedex office to pick up your diapers.

We need to get North shore to sponsor as well

8 hours ago, Stevewet said:

I am a nightly bedwetter and also suffer from daytime incontinence. I have been back in nappies 24/7 for over 10 years. Happy to chat to others like me.

Sweet and welcome to the club

32 minutes ago, Slomo said:

And yes, as an incontinent person I do want something that can last me a full work day (and then some for that margin of error). Which eliminates many logistical and personal issues I may otherwise encounter while at work. At 2+ liters per day, that works out to 1 daytime diaper and 1 nighttime diaper (that I keep on for a couple hours until I take my morning shower).

That's why for me, I look for a diaper that can last a full day. Even with a booster, it can last me for until the next morning. It's why I tend to prefer ABDL diapers over plain, cheap ones. 

Well for me, I always boost my Northshore Megamax diapers because I always want to make sure I get a full day's use of the diaper. I wear Northshore Megamax diapers with 4 boosters to make sure I can last for the whole day. In many instances, I have had tapes pop off before reaching capacity and that maybe to do improper taping or maxing out the diaper.

27 minutes ago, Slomo said:

 

Seconded, though not everyone will need this much, nor will all these tips work for everyone. Case in point, mastering putting on a diaper while standing so you won't need to carry around a changing mat big enough for an adult. Well, not everyone can do that either.

I'd say the import thing for anyone to take away is to find what each individual needs and what helps them manage it all best.

It works for me being incontinent and many times I prefer changing my diaper on the floor, bed or diaper changing table because I get a better seal and I won't leak as much.

44 minutes ago, Slomo said:

That's a great way of looking at it. Needing diapers does not end your social lifestyle, they help you to keep living your social lifestyle.

That's how I look at being thrown back into diapers. Diapers doesn't end my social life it enhances it and even helps me live an active social life without the worry of having ti use the potty because I know I'm never gona use the potty anytime soon due to my Incontinence.

On top of that I don't think people and society should ever shame someone for wearing a diaper. Diapers are medical tools to help people have a normal life. 

6 hours ago, John Davis said:

In addition to disposal bags for soiled diapers, I always have a larger bag for the dreaded possibility of soiled clothing.  If we have a truly catastrophic bowel accident, "stuff" may leak down our legs onto our socks, and even onto our shoes.😱 

Although I normally use a military-style messenger bag when I need to keep diapers, etc. with me, I keep a "disaster kit" in the trunk of my car with extra diapers and a complete change of clothes and shoes.

Admittedly I may be overly anxious about bowel accidents, but, when it happens....

--John

You can't be too overly prepared for any accidents. Accidents do happen and being overly prepared for them will save you in the long run.

2 hours ago, John Davis said:

Been to the ER in a MegaMax in the tie-dye colors.  The nurses loved it.  I even took one to show my SCI rehab doctor as a sort of "show and tell."

--John

Been their. I have gone to my doctor's appointment in my MegaMax and I had nurses comment how cute my diapers look on me

Here's an example of using a portable diaper changing pad.

For me, I always have two kinds of diaper bags with me. One is my regular diaper bag that comes with 4 diapers, wipes, 4 boosters and spare clothes for when I get soaked really badly. I also have a portable diaper changing bag with me. It has a wipe, diaper and a booster. The portable diaper changing pad is the one that infants have but use them because it's very discreet and know one knows that I have an adult diaper in them. 

Awesome observation. I wonder what do you do for the diaper bag.

16 hours ago, zzyzx said:

I will agree that Northshore beats out any of the other medical disposable diapers on the market.

Northshore is the gold standard for which other diapers are judged by

49 minutes ago, John Davis said:

I was pleased that you used the phrase "live a normal life."  That is the sort of positive thinking that all ICs should have.

I try to live a normal life with my incontinence and learn to cope, adapt and deal with it.

1 hour ago, Slomo said:

That was said by the x-men Gambit, shortly before he was accused of murdering the president, and all heck broke loose.

A very few may recognize my old name on daily diapers, Baby Brian. And why I hadn't been around there. That was a long time ago though, and is not something I'll be getting into here. So starting anew, call me Slomo. It's my gamer tag, given to me by a cousin when I first played Lazer tag. I had a slow momentum at first, but soon caught on how to play it, and at some point it was like everyone else was playing in slow motion to me. So it's a double entranda, Slo-mo.

Now about me: I was injured in a bad car wreck about 25 years ago, while in the USMC. Among things, I had spinal bruising at my L5-S1. A seemingly magic spot for causing urinary and/or bowel problems for many. I immediately developed severe urge incontinence, along with a slowly worsening neurogenic dyssynergia sphincter (more on that later).

At the recommendation from my doctor, I started wearing a diaper while I was still in. Mostly because I wasn't very mobile and couldn't make it to the restroom in time. Still, I fought having to wear them, as I've also been a life-long ABDL. I reasoned since I loved diapers that I was just making an excuse to wear them, and didn't actually need them.

It took me a few years of close calls, wet pants, and embarrassment before I was discharged and finally embraced them. Over the next decade my dyssynergia got worse. Basically my sphincter control wires were crossed. Whenever i tried to relax to pee, my muscle would clamp down instead. It got really painful due to my urgency, so I'd push and strain past my own sphincter just to pee. 

I went from one urologist to another for help. But I couldn't finish their urodynamics test, and pee past the catheter at the end. So none of them believed me. I once even spent a straight 7 months with an indwelling catheter. Just to alleviate the pain and let my kidneys heal. I still ended up with painful hemorrhoids, a bleeding anal fissure, and one really bad kidney stone.

Eventually I met a urologist at my local Mayo Clinic, who took me for my word first- then went about verifying it. I was almost immediately put in for a sphincterotomy surgery. Then another, and a bunch more, all about every 3-4 months apart. All just to try and open my external and internal sphincters. Along the way I developed a stricture, so it was more surgeries for that too.

In the end, I had gone through 15 surgeries! My heart stopped during one, I had a suprapubic catheter (temporary bypass through the abdomen and into the bladder for a other, had a TURP, then full prostrate removal, and had an inch of my urethra removed. Finally though I'm stable, and my bladder no longer painfully fills. I'm now functionally urinary incontinent, and constantly dripping.

 

I've learned quite a lot along the way too. So just ask me, I might already have an answer for you.

Welcome and I know you were in the USMC and I am in the USCG

Northshore diapers are my favorite diaper and they beat out all the other diapers on the market

For me, I am urge and urinary incontinence. It has developed over time since I was 21 yrs old and now in my 40's with stress of life, it has gotten worse over time. It has gotten to the point where I can't make it to the bathroom and now I am put back into diapers. So now I am kept in diapers and live a normal life.

Mine is heavy because I have urinary incontinence and I sometimes have bowel issues as well.  

My Favorite diapers are as follows

NorthShore Megamax diaper in Tye dye

ABU Little paws

ABU Space

Tykables Camo

Tykable LITTLE RAWRS

Tykable GALACTIC

Tykables Cammies Blue Diapers

I prefer ABDL diapers over medical diapers because they hold more and last longer than Medical diapers. As an Incontinent, I want a diaper that can last all day and not worry about a leak.

HI everyone,

My Name is Nicky. I have Urge and Urinary Incontinence and I wear diapers 24/7 and my go to diapers are Northshore Mega Max diapers. I have been Incontinent since I was 21 yrs old and I have been in diapers since then.