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I know summer is around the corner and how do you handle being diapered and incontinent in the summer.

I wear boosters with my diapers and it's a must for me because it let's me go on without worrying if I am going to leak or overflow in my diaper

I buy my diapers online because the store ones are crappy and don't hold the same level as NorthShore MegaMax diapers

I think tapes as strong as duck tape

15 hours ago, ADudeStillDiapered said:

Personally, I find more comfort in a diaper that is thicker, or to you point fluffier. While the thin can be more discrete, I often times find that it takes a second for the firmly compressed padding to be ready to absorb everything I’m throwing at it. Fluffier diapers like Northshore MegaMax leave me with no fears of leaks and when dry are honestly quite discrete!

 

cheers

For me, I am more comfortable in a thicker diaper. Thicker diapers like NorthShore MegaMax diapers gives me the confidence to go about my day without ever worrying about a Diaper leak.

On 4/28/2023 at 4:43 AM, emily1890 said:

I wear diapers 24/7

 

doctors never really comment, however some patients have randomly commented on the smell but I reckon you're going to get that everywhere, a few people who just find it strange

So do I, I wear diapers 24/7/365. I have had my Primary care doctor always comment on my diapers and often times dose a diaper check to make sure I am wearing them and not having a diaper rash. For me, being kept in diapers is pretty much normal for me and people around me know I am disabled as well. I make the most of being disabled and being kept in diapers.

On 4/28/2023 at 9:04 AM, Brian said:

Since my doctor was the one who helped me with my incontinence, he is fully aware of what is going on and fully supportive. when you end up dealing with as much stress as I have dealt with, you need something to help you with your stress, and part of my problem is I worry about things that I shouldn't worry about, and that can be a problem sometimes. wearing diapers is making it a lot easier for me because I don't have to fight my body and I don't have to worry if I release. I've only had a situation where I've had to use my diaper to its fullest on about four different occasions, but each time it does take time to clean up the mess afterwards. I'm glad that most medical professionals don't have a problem with someone wearing diapers, but it kinda irks me that a urologist would be the one telling you to get help so you don't have to wear diapers, or trying to force you out of diapers. That is not what a urologist is supposed to do! they're supposed to help you, giving you advice is one thing, wanting you out of diapers? That's something that you as a user make the determination of about, and a doctor should not be forcing you. there are people that also wear diapers because they don't have any control at all, so trying to get them out of diapers would be an exercise silliness, and why should anyone wearing diapers want to get out of them If that is what they're using and they're comfortable doing it. the idea is that you want wearing diapers to be as normal for the person wearing them as people where. That's basically what it is: an underwear choice, sometimes not by choice sometimes by choice.

That's like my doctor as well Brian. He's full supportive of me being in diapers and dealing with my incontinence. He knows the stress of being incontinent takes on me and knows that wearing diapers makes it so much easier on me. He knows that diapers helps me deal with the world and I don't have to stress out. It's why my doctor and even my nurses are my biggest advocated when it comes to dealing with Incontinence. If you have a good advocate, it goes along way in dealing with incontinence. 

On 4/27/2023 at 8:47 AM, Slomo said:

Depending on the surgery I've woken up without a diaper on. And some more nurses were hesitant to give me a new one. Though again, with some insistence I was able to get one.

It's why my medical records say I am incontinent and I am required to be in diapers. It's clearly stated on all my medical records. It's why any medical procedure, they know I have to wear diapers and they are super accommodating. 

I have seen hospital diapers that are so thin that you would need to be changed so often. It's why I don't wear thin diapers because I know I would leak and flood them.

15 hours ago, Dan said:

My urologist is okay. He will remind me every visit that there may be some surgery that might help, but he understands that I am reluctant and that I would rather leave well-enough alone.

My doctor always reminds me wear my diapers and even does a diaper check on me to make sure I am not developing any rashes because I have sensitive skin. But he understands why I medically need diapers and never pushes for a medical solution. 

I never had any negative reactions from my doctors when it comes to my diapers. I mostly had supportive reactions. 

I talk to my PCP all the time about my Incontinence and He even does a diaper check on me as well 

I'm from Connecticut 

I call them diapers regardless of what the medical community thinks

As an Incontinent, I know we all have diaper bags. So what's in your diaper bag and what do you carry for the whole entire day.

I know for me, I have a diaper bag and a portable diaper bag. The diaper bag has 4 diapers, wipes, 4 boosters, Spare onesie, spare sweat pants and a diaper changing pad. My portable diaper changing pad is for when I am not near my diaper bag and I need a quick change on the fly. It has a diaper, booster pad and wipes.

I know when I do yoga at home, it's often in a diaper and a sports bra on.

I wonder if you workout in a diaper in a home gym.

I know being incontinent and going to the gym alot, I wonder how many of you who do go to the gym alot. How do you deal with Incontinence and going to the gym to work out.

8 hours ago, John Davis said:

I actually had a doctor in a rehab center tell me that using the term "diaper" was insulting to an adult and robbed them of their dignity.😱

I maintained that acceptance was the first critical step to coping effectively with incontinence and using the dreaded "D" word was part of that.  Unfortunately, my words fell on deaf ears.  The staff was forbidden to use the words "diaper" or "bib."  The latter was a "clothing protector."😟

--John

I actually think it's an insult to Incontinent folks who try to call diapers something else. It robs them of their dignity and reality.

It's why I am all for reclaiming the word diapers for what it is.

2 hours ago, John Davis said:

I dry out every day after my shower by sitting on a cloth booster pad or on an open diaper.  If I leak, I merely need to tape up the diaper.  At every diaper change I clean up either with a damp washcloth or wipes.

That's what I do to avoid diaper rashes. I make sure I am thoroughly cleaned and in between diaper changes while getting the diaper all prepared, I sit on a booster pad, or on a cheap pull up that I can throw away. Afterwards, I put on m my diaper, booster and get on with the rest of the day.

16 hours ago, Zombie_Turtle said:

thoughts: we start instilling the stigma at a young age.  We call toddler diapers "training pants" or "pull-ups"  in reality they are diapers without tapes.  Is it really a way to to instill pride in our children that they have graduated potty training step 1 by getting out of "baby diapers"?  or is it really just a way to tell kids that they are getting bigger and are expected to not be a baby and wear diapers, thereby validating the shame they would feel if they fail at using the toilet.  

 

Is that all wrong?  Probably not completely but if we didn't have to make up different words for what diapers really are, and not treat the process as something to fail or succeed at, would that change the perception?  not really sure.  Just thoughts.

 

That's where I think and believe the stigma about diapers got started. It's that parents and society are telling kids the shame of wearing diapers and shaming them if they still wear diapers. I think it also hurts the kids if they are still kept in diapers and hurts them further into adulthood. It's why I am all for ending the shame and guilt about wearing diapers. I know some kids with medical conditions that have to wear diapers and why should we shame them. We should never shame anyone who has a medical need for diapers.

I think making up a different words for diaper is a word game society plays or to hide the reality, guilt and shame for wearing a diaper. A diaper is a diaper no matter who wears it, whether it's an infant, child, teen, adult or elderly. No amount of word play is ever going to hide reality from people. At the end of the day, it's still a diaper no matter how much word play people use.

It's why for me as an incontinent, I am not ashamed of wearing diapers to help manage and deal with my incontinence. What I am ashamed of is society not growing up and still using the old, outdated norms about diapers.

18 hours ago, Zombie_Turtle said:

I change on the floor at home and standing in public restrooms.   laying down is much easier for me and I prefer to change that way.

I tried to do a diaper change standing up but I can never get the tapes on right. I prefer diaper changes on the floor or on a changing table or bed. It's much easier and I get a good diaper fit.

I know many times, I have positive responses to me wearing diapers and most of them come from the medical community who is very well supportive and understanding as to why I need diapers.

The only negative is when I had to use the bathroom to do a diaper change and people are wondering what's that sound.

3 hours ago, Slomo said:

Well no, that's it's my point, it's not. Like in the example I gave, I asked for a diaper. The nurse "confirmed" I'd get one, but came back with something that was decidedly not a diaper.

And by refusing ttlo call it a diaper doesn't help lessen the stigma, it actually enforces it.

Even in the medical community they still try to call diapers briefs and their logic is that they don't want to associate the word diaper with adults. To me, that's not lessening the stigma and it's still a diaper regardless of who's wearing them. By refusing to call it a diaper, they are not helping with the stigma issue and are making it worse.

Which is why to me, it's a diaper regardless of how they call it.

1 hour ago, Zombie_Turtle said:

HAHA yep!   My guess is people may try to call them other than diapers as to not offend an incontinent person? maybe calling a diaper a brief is a way to let someone who is ashamed by needing to wear them retain some dignity by not being compared to an elderly patient or infant?

But technically, it's still a diaper no matter what you call it. It's still a diaper no matter how you call it because it's always gona be a diaper regardless if it's on an infant, child, teen, adult or elderly person. Calling a diaper a brief is trying to lessen the stigma of being in a diaper but in reality, it's still a diaper and no amount of word salad is gona change reality.

43 minutes ago, Zombie_Turtle said:

And yes, I do use far fewer diapers than i have in the past wearing Abena, or Molicares.  I generally only need to change 2x a day and once at night.  compared to 5-6 times with the lesser capacity diapers.  I could have stretched the use but I value feeling dry, and keeping rashes from forming.  The high absorbent diapers are the only ones that seems to fit into my regime in that regard.

That's why when I was wearing Abena in the past, I would go through 2 to 4 diaper changes. Compare that to NorthShore Megamax diapers, I'm now down to 2 to 3 diaper changes. The High Absorbency and adding boosters to my megamax diapers helps me keep the diaper changes down to a minimum. In some cases, I can make a diaper last all day unless I leak or poop in them. It's why the minute I leak or poop in my diaper, I change right away because I try to keep diaper rashes away from me and limit any possibility of developing a diaper rash. It's why High end diapers and boosters fit well with me and work very well as well.