Iken

I'm Iken, I have Urinary incontinence and diagnosed with urinary incontinence. I'm kept in diapers because it's the far better option than taking incontinent meds with those side affects

6 hours ago, John Davis said:

Iken, you are fortunate to be able to make it through an entire day on one diaper.

--John

Yeap and I can make a diaper last all the way to dinner time unless I poop really badly.

On 4/25/2023 at 6:54 AM, John Davis said:

Those who have a well-informed and supportive PCP are very fortunate.  However, Iken's PCP may be taking support to a new level with his diaper checks.

--John

My PCP is the biggest advocate for why I am in diapers. He's also the one that's comfortable with me being kept in diapers and not on any Incontinence meds. It's why he never had me be potty trained again and has kept me in diapers instead. 

On 5/28/2023 at 7:21 AM, John Davis said:

Dan, a thin cotton pullup over the diaper and under the plastic pants catches any overflow from the diaper.  Cotton will wick extremely well and prevents having a "pool" of pee in the plastic pants if the diaper leaks.🙂  The extra bulk is negligible.

I usually wear BetterDry with a BoostUps or NorthShore booster.  However, like Iken, for long car trips I usually put on a Megamax with a BoostUps booster pad.  I do add a thicker cloth pullup over that (plus plastic pants)

--John

I wear diapers with boosters because I want to make sure I can make it though the entire day without ever having to do a diaper change during the day. Just to make sure I can make it to dinner time for a diaper change.

8 hours ago, John Davis said:

Interesting how long Slomo and Iken are able to last without a change.  I stay well hydrated and am a heavy wetter.  I usually need to change at about 6 hours and rarely risk going longer than 7 ½ hours.  However, on long car trips if I "diaper heavy" I usually can last for 12 hours.  Otherwise my changing habits are similar to Scarth.

--John

That's cause I wear diapers with boosters and I wear the Megamax diapers with Eterna boosters from Northshore. 

For me, I wear a diaper with 4 boosters that I can make it last for the entire day unless I poop or leak in them. Normally for me, in the morning, I get up, take my diaper off, shower, then make my bed and then put my Megamax diaper with 4 boosters on. Have breakfast and then go about my day. Only time I change, is if I leak or take a poop in my diaper after 12 to 21 hours, I change again for night time and I get ready for bed.

I know a few times it would irk me when Nurses call my diapers briefs but I always tell them I wear diapers and not ashamed to call them diapers. I know nurses that have told me that they don't call them diapers because they think it makes people feel ashamed of being in a diaper. I often tell them a diaper is a diaper regardless if it's being put on an infant, child, teen, adult or elderly.  To me, I am not ashamed of wearing diapers and not humiliated for wearing them.

16 hours ago, John Davis said:

I am so frustrated by medical practitioners who refuse to use the word "Diaper," claiming that it is humiliating for their patients.  As Slomo indicated, it feeds the continuing stigma.  If we cannot educate the doctors, how will we educate the general public?

In many rehab and assisted living facilities the staff are prohibited from using the word "diaper."

Too many people still feel that being identified with wearing a "diaper" means that they have lost their adulthood or maturity and somehow have reverted to being infantile.

--John

How do you think I feel, when medical staff refuse to use the word diaper. I often think it's humiliating to call my diapers a briefs, despite me insisting it's a diaper. It feels into the stigma that we're tying to fight against. To me a diaper is a a diaper regardless if it's a baby, child, teen, adult or even an elderly person is wearing. Calling it sometime else makes it worse for those who are kept in them. It reinforces stereotypes and notions about those who wear diapers. The problem is that too many people in society are stuck on the old notions of what diapers means. Many think that only babies wear diapers when in reality anyone who has an incontinence medical condition wears diapers.

For me, I am not ashamed of wearing diapers. I know they are diapers and in my mind, diapers are normal for those who are Incontinent. Being in diapers, I know I have not lost my adulthood. Diapers allows me to have a normal life without fear or shame.

Acceptance for me is being able to call a diaper a diaper and not a brief. Calling a diaper a brief, stigmatizes people like me who wear diapers.

That's a tough one.

For me being kept in diapers, many times where the biggest issue for me is where's a safe place for me to do a diaper change. Being in diapers, I am always mindful as to how long I can safely wear a diaper before I am forced into a diaper change. Often, diaper changes do take a lot out of me because the amount of time it takes to change out of a diaper. However, I know that being kept in diapers is the price to pay for not having wet pants.

16 hours ago, Incont said:

Rarely leak in public, but absolutely hate it.

I rarely leak and have figured out when I reach the point that I am about to leak and I change my diapers on a schedule

Not me and I am not ashamed if I leak in my diaper. If I leak in my diaper, it means I used them very well and I should consider getting thicker diapers

I’m at a point now where I don’t care if people hear or see my diapers. It’s why for me, being diapered is totally normal for me.

I do believe that their is a link between stress and Incontinence 

For me, the pros of being kept diapered is that I never have to stop to use the bathroom because being incontinent, I was never potty trained to begin with. I also find bathrooms disgusting. Having a diaper let's me go on with life without having to worry about the nasty bathroom. Diapers reduce my stress, anxiety and helps me relax and stay calm. I love how diapers make me feel and look. Most importantly, they let me have a life and let me be active without having to worry about where's the nearest potty.

Cons, diapers are very expensive. I know my wardrobe had to change and adapt to being in diapers. They often get hot and sweaty in the war, months but after being kept in them permanently, I am use to wearing them in the summer. Medical grade and store diapers suck and are horrible. It took me years to overcome the fact that I am always going to be kept in diapers, which is no longer a problem for me.

Overall, it's been rough for me in the beginning to wear diapers but after a while, I have gotten use to them and have been extremely comfortable in them

I know summer is around the corner and how do you handle being diapered and incontinent in the summer.

I wear boosters with my diapers and it's a must for me because it let's me go on without worrying if I am going to leak or overflow in my diaper

I buy my diapers online because the store ones are crappy and don't hold the same level as NorthShore MegaMax diapers

I think tapes as strong as duck tape

15 hours ago, ADudeStillDiapered said:

Personally, I find more comfort in a diaper that is thicker, or to you point fluffier. While the thin can be more discrete, I often times find that it takes a second for the firmly compressed padding to be ready to absorb everything I’m throwing at it. Fluffier diapers like Northshore MegaMax leave me with no fears of leaks and when dry are honestly quite discrete!

 

cheers

For me, I am more comfortable in a thicker diaper. Thicker diapers like NorthShore MegaMax diapers gives me the confidence to go about my day without ever worrying about a Diaper leak.

On 4/28/2023 at 4:43 AM, emily1890 said:

I wear diapers 24/7

 

doctors never really comment, however some patients have randomly commented on the smell but I reckon you're going to get that everywhere, a few people who just find it strange

So do I, I wear diapers 24/7/365. I have had my Primary care doctor always comment on my diapers and often times dose a diaper check to make sure I am wearing them and not having a diaper rash. For me, being kept in diapers is pretty much normal for me and people around me know I am disabled as well. I make the most of being disabled and being kept in diapers.

On 4/28/2023 at 9:04 AM, Brian said:

Since my doctor was the one who helped me with my incontinence, he is fully aware of what is going on and fully supportive. when you end up dealing with as much stress as I have dealt with, you need something to help you with your stress, and part of my problem is I worry about things that I shouldn't worry about, and that can be a problem sometimes. wearing diapers is making it a lot easier for me because I don't have to fight my body and I don't have to worry if I release. I've only had a situation where I've had to use my diaper to its fullest on about four different occasions, but each time it does take time to clean up the mess afterwards. I'm glad that most medical professionals don't have a problem with someone wearing diapers, but it kinda irks me that a urologist would be the one telling you to get help so you don't have to wear diapers, or trying to force you out of diapers. That is not what a urologist is supposed to do! they're supposed to help you, giving you advice is one thing, wanting you out of diapers? That's something that you as a user make the determination of about, and a doctor should not be forcing you. there are people that also wear diapers because they don't have any control at all, so trying to get them out of diapers would be an exercise silliness, and why should anyone wearing diapers want to get out of them If that is what they're using and they're comfortable doing it. the idea is that you want wearing diapers to be as normal for the person wearing them as people where. That's basically what it is: an underwear choice, sometimes not by choice sometimes by choice.

That's like my doctor as well Brian. He's full supportive of me being in diapers and dealing with my incontinence. He knows the stress of being incontinent takes on me and knows that wearing diapers makes it so much easier on me. He knows that diapers helps me deal with the world and I don't have to stress out. It's why my doctor and even my nurses are my biggest advocated when it comes to dealing with Incontinence. If you have a good advocate, it goes along way in dealing with incontinence. 

On 4/27/2023 at 8:47 AM, Slomo said:

Depending on the surgery I've woken up without a diaper on. And some more nurses were hesitant to give me a new one. Though again, with some insistence I was able to get one.

It's why my medical records say I am incontinent and I am required to be in diapers. It's clearly stated on all my medical records. It's why any medical procedure, they know I have to wear diapers and they are super accommodating. 

I have seen hospital diapers that are so thin that you would need to be changed so often. It's why I don't wear thin diapers because I know I would leak and flood them.

15 hours ago, Dan said:

My urologist is okay. He will remind me every visit that there may be some surgery that might help, but he understands that I am reluctant and that I would rather leave well-enough alone.

My doctor always reminds me wear my diapers and even does a diaper check on me to make sure I am not developing any rashes because I have sensitive skin. But he understands why I medically need diapers and never pushes for a medical solution. 

I never had any negative reactions from my doctors when it comes to my diapers. I mostly had supportive reactions.