Iken

As someone who wears diapers, I have seen what cheap diapers looks like and especially at Nursing homes and assisted living facilities. It makes me wonder why people are still stuck in them. I know being in diapers, when I go to Nursing homes and assisted living facilities, I often chat up about better diapers like Northshore.

4 hours ago, John Davis said:

Good points all.  However, do note that a thicker diaper is not necessarily more absorbent than a thin one.  If two diapers have the same absorbency I will select the thicker one as it probably has more fluff pulp that will help wicking.

--John

It makes you wonder why Hospitals, skilled Nursing homes and assisted living homes give their people thin diapers when thicker ones are much preferred. For me, Thicker diapers are a no brainer because they make sure I don't leak and I don't change my diaper on a constant basis. That's why I prefer Megamax diapers because I can get a full 12 hours of diaper time before changes unless I poop really badly.

That's why thin diapers would make me leak alot. Whereas thick diapers, I can get through the day without having to worry about changing so often.

5 hours ago, John Davis said:

By the time we have saturated our diapers to near their maximum useable capacity, it does not matter much whether they began as thick or thin.  If the maximum absorbent capacity is the same, the bulge will be about the same.  Frankly, I prefer a thicker diaper with more fluff pulp mixed in with the SAP to permit some wicking.  However, that is disappearing from the marketplace as the general public prefers a thin diaper.  There is an economic incentive for manufacturers to make thinner diapers as more can be shipped in the same container for reduced transportation costs.

--John

That's why I prefer thicker diapers because thicker diapers have fewer changes in between. On top of that, thicker diapers gives me the safety, security and comfort that I can go diapered and not worry about changing so often. 

In terms of diapers, which do you prefer, thick diapers or thin diapers?

I generally prefer thick diapers mainly because they give me that padding and safety that I can go in them and use them. On top of that I don't require a whole lot of changes unless I poop in them.

What foods or drinks are safe to help deal and manage your incontinence 

That's like mines as well. I have a PCP who cares and has interest in Incontinence management. It's why for mines, when I got see them for my checkups, as part of my checkup, he checks my diapers to make sure I am using them and not developing any diaper rashes. It's also the same for my dermatologist as well, she checks my skin around my diaper area to make sure I am using them. It's also why my doctors and nurses that take care me all have great interest in what I use to manage my incontinence. I even show them the diapers I wear on a daily basis. It's why they know I prefer diapers over pull ups and they know I wouldn't last a day in a pull up. On top of that it's good to show the medical staff that their is nothing wrong with being in diapers and using diapers to manage your incontinence. 

Plus being an EMT and having to do calls to Nursing homes and assisted living facilities, I even get to educated those folks on better diapers such as Northshore's and even showed their website on my phone. Which often results the Nurses ordering them for their clients and has done wonders for them. The stuff they use for their clients in the Nursing homes and assisted living facilities would make me cringe.

6 hours ago, John Davis said:

Iken, you were very fortunate to have the college be so accommodating.

--John

The college I went to in New England, was super liberal and super accommodating. When I lived on campus, they even let me have my own dorm room where I can stay in just a diaper and t-shirt after classes were done. The bathrooms, they made space where I can change my soiled diaper in between classes and when I am not near my dorm room.

When I went to college, I was already diapered. The college I went to was super accommodating of my disability. I lived on campus while I was in college, so I had a dorm for myself. The college accommodated me that they had bathrooms set up to have a diaper changing room.

I wonder, how many of you dealt being incontinent and in college. I know when I was in college and Incontinent, I had to wear diapers to college class and the college I went to was so accommodating of my disability.

4 hours ago, Scarth said:

i wear a lot of shorts and tank tops in the summer .. also very important to stay hydrated its might meen an extra change or two but for i have less rashes .. i wear a strechy pant over my diaper thats breathable .. Duluth trading co's buck naked  boxer briefs are fantastic 

 

During the summer, I tend to wear more shorts, skirts and dresses

For me, I have longer airing out time in between diaper changes

6 hours ago, Slomo said:

Lol, I've had that happen a LOT too. Whenever they see my diapers (Betterdry before, Crinklz now) I always get inquiries about them. How they look so much better, cost, comfort, you name it. And of course why the prints.

That happens to me all the time when the Nurses see my diapers, especially Northshore Mega Max diapers. I always get questions asked from Nurses on how they look and how they work on people like me. I often times show them the diapers and they even comment how they look on me

Now that summer is here, Let's start a discussion on how to deal with being diapered and Incontinent during the Hot Summer months. How do you deal with being diapered during the summer and what are your best practices for dealing with being diapered in the summer.

I call them diapers regardless of what the Medical community calls them. I don't reinforce the shame in being in diapers and I always call them diapers despite what the Medical community calls them. Many time I have had Nurse call my diapers briefs but when I talk, I always call them diapers and explain that I wear diapers and not briefs. Saying Briefs, makes me feel like I have to hide my Incontinence and hide the fact that I wear diapers. Other times, when I have my diaper bag with me and they see my North Shore Mega Max diapers with Boosters, they always commented on how cute they look and how they look better than Nursing home and medical diapers.

4 hours ago, Scarth said:

I asked a nurse last time i was in the hospital and its there policy to call them briefs, the last thing i want is to make my nurses day harder when its out of there control.

 

I also ask my nurses why they called diapers "briefs" and their reason was they didn't want to stigmatize people with the notion that adults with incontinence issues are wearing diapers

7 hours ago, Slomo said:

And the rest just want the idea of adults wearing a diaper (regardless of a physical OR psychological need) to be more socially acceptable. No forced exposure in public, except in places where it's already ok to be less dressed (like a locker room or at the beach). They just want the ability to be in public, with a diaper on, and not have to feel embarrased or be in fear of being found out. Pretty much like the rest of us.

That's how I feel because I just want to make diapers socially acceptable and not hide behind that stupid name. Just think how disabled people would feel if someone called their diapers "briefs" or how they are embarrassed if they have have a diaper on

7 hours ago, John Davis said:

It is not childish to need to wear an adult diaper.  What is childish is to be in denial about your body's medical needs.  Wearing a diaper does not make you any less of an adult.

The problem I see is with Society's expectation and norms about disabled people who have to wear diapers. Wearing a diaper doesn't make you less of an adult and what I think society needs to face is reality.

8 hours ago, Slomo said:

Same. I've already said this in a couple of other threads, but refusing to call them what they are only breeds confusion and heightens the stigma. I'm also a big advocate for calling things what they are. And if someone calls my diapers something else I will typically correct them on it.

I just think that stigmatizing people who wear diapers by calling it something else is wrong and erasing reality erases the reality of what diapers are. It's why i refuse to call diapers briefs and go along with the medical community. It's why I call them diapers because that's what I wear.

I just think the term "brief" is derogatory and implies being ashamed and shamed for being kept in diapers. It's why I fight so hard change the name back from "briefs" to Diapers because that's they technically are called. Calling it something else just reinforces the stigma and shame associated with incontinence. Beside's there's nothing wrong about being in diapers or having Incontinence.

5 hours ago, John Davis said:

Ikea, I so agree.  I am on the warpath to persuade everyone to use the dreaded "D" word - "diaper."  For me, acknowledging that you need to wear diapers is an essential part of acceptance and necessary for coping.  

Unfortunately, most of the medical community is working against us with regard to terminology.  I have mentioned elsewhere that in many rehab facilities and hospitals, staff are forbidden to use the word "diaper" and instead must resort to euphemisms.

--John

I'm like that too. I am on a warpath to make diapers feel normal. I try to fight so hard to use the word "Diaper" instead of Briefs. The word "brief" makes it feel like I should be ashamed for wearing them. It's why I am not ashamed to say I wear diapers and I wear diapers to cope my Incontinence.

The problem I see is that in society and the Medical community they want to hide the notion of people who have incontinence issues and wear diapers. It's kind of funny that society is okay with babies wearing diapers but when it comes to a child, teen, adult, elderly or disabled. They seem to change the name and not stick to reality and stick to facts.

For me, I still call it a diaper no matter what society and the medical community calls it. I call it a diaper regardless and I see it for what it is. Calling it something else imply's I need to hide or feel ashamed. It's why I am not afraid, ashamed or humiliated for wearing a diaper. I never use the term that the medical community wants to shove down our faces.

5 hours ago, Dan said:

I also agree. Insisting on calling it a brief gives the impression that there is something wrong or shameful with a diaper. There isn’t and there is no need to encourage the shame that some people feel — and that I used to feel. I wear a diaper, and there is nothing shameful about that.

It's why I am one of those who hate the word "brief" and when someone in the medical community says that, it makes me feel shameful and makes me think that their is something wrong. I feel that there isn't anything wrong and we shouldn't encourage shame in people who need diapers. I wear diapers and I know I am not ashamed about that.

To me, a Diaper is what helps me get by in life.

Being Incontinent and kept in diapers, how many are okay with the medical community calling our diapers a brief. I have seen many medical providers call my adult diapers briefs and it's something that irks me because for a diaper is a diaper no matter who's wearing it and I think calling a diaper a brief sometimes feels like they are trying to hide incontinence from people. I look at it like this, a diaper is a diaper no matter if it's worn by a baby, child, adult or elderly. Calling it something else for adults and elderly makes it feel like incontinence is something to be hidden from people. It's why I am one of those who call my diapers a diaper because that is reality and that's nothing to be ashamed of.

I do and they have large enough room to do a diaper change.

I never had that problem with Mega max diapers. Although sometimes the lower tapes will have issues, if I wear them too long.

Mines is kept in the open but I do keep them in the closet. Those that are kept in the open are their in case I mess or leak in my diaper and I need a diaper change.