Iken

4 hours ago, Scarth said:

I asked a nurse last time i was in the hospital and its there policy to call them briefs, the last thing i want is to make my nurses day harder when its out of there control.

 

I also ask my nurses why they called diapers "briefs" and their reason was they didn't want to stigmatize people with the notion that adults with incontinence issues are wearing diapers

7 hours ago, Slomo said:

And the rest just want the idea of adults wearing a diaper (regardless of a physical OR psychological need) to be more socially acceptable. No forced exposure in public, except in places where it's already ok to be less dressed (like a locker room or at the beach). They just want the ability to be in public, with a diaper on, and not have to feel embarrased or be in fear of being found out. Pretty much like the rest of us.

That's how I feel because I just want to make diapers socially acceptable and not hide behind that stupid name. Just think how disabled people would feel if someone called their diapers "briefs" or how they are embarrassed if they have have a diaper on

7 hours ago, John Davis said:

It is not childish to need to wear an adult diaper.  What is childish is to be in denial about your body's medical needs.  Wearing a diaper does not make you any less of an adult.

The problem I see is with Society's expectation and norms about disabled people who have to wear diapers. Wearing a diaper doesn't make you less of an adult and what I think society needs to face is reality.

8 hours ago, Slomo said:

Same. I've already said this in a couple of other threads, but refusing to call them what they are only breeds confusion and heightens the stigma. I'm also a big advocate for calling things what they are. And if someone calls my diapers something else I will typically correct them on it.

I just think that stigmatizing people who wear diapers by calling it something else is wrong and erasing reality erases the reality of what diapers are. It's why i refuse to call diapers briefs and go along with the medical community. It's why I call them diapers because that's what I wear.

I just think the term "brief" is derogatory and implies being ashamed and shamed for being kept in diapers. It's why I fight so hard change the name back from "briefs" to Diapers because that's they technically are called. Calling it something else just reinforces the stigma and shame associated with incontinence. Beside's there's nothing wrong about being in diapers or having Incontinence.

5 hours ago, John Davis said:

Ikea, I so agree.  I am on the warpath to persuade everyone to use the dreaded "D" word - "diaper."  For me, acknowledging that you need to wear diapers is an essential part of acceptance and necessary for coping.  

Unfortunately, most of the medical community is working against us with regard to terminology.  I have mentioned elsewhere that in many rehab facilities and hospitals, staff are forbidden to use the word "diaper" and instead must resort to euphemisms.

--John

I'm like that too. I am on a warpath to make diapers feel normal. I try to fight so hard to use the word "Diaper" instead of Briefs. The word "brief" makes it feel like I should be ashamed for wearing them. It's why I am not ashamed to say I wear diapers and I wear diapers to cope my Incontinence.

The problem I see is that in society and the Medical community they want to hide the notion of people who have incontinence issues and wear diapers. It's kind of funny that society is okay with babies wearing diapers but when it comes to a child, teen, adult, elderly or disabled. They seem to change the name and not stick to reality and stick to facts.

For me, I still call it a diaper no matter what society and the medical community calls it. I call it a diaper regardless and I see it for what it is. Calling it something else imply's I need to hide or feel ashamed. It's why I am not afraid, ashamed or humiliated for wearing a diaper. I never use the term that the medical community wants to shove down our faces.

5 hours ago, Dan said:

I also agree. Insisting on calling it a brief gives the impression that there is something wrong or shameful with a diaper. There isn’t and there is no need to encourage the shame that some people feel — and that I used to feel. I wear a diaper, and there is nothing shameful about that.

It's why I am one of those who hate the word "brief" and when someone in the medical community says that, it makes me feel shameful and makes me think that their is something wrong. I feel that there isn't anything wrong and we shouldn't encourage shame in people who need diapers. I wear diapers and I know I am not ashamed about that.

To me, a Diaper is what helps me get by in life.

Being Incontinent and kept in diapers, how many are okay with the medical community calling our diapers a brief. I have seen many medical providers call my adult diapers briefs and it's something that irks me because for a diaper is a diaper no matter who's wearing it and I think calling a diaper a brief sometimes feels like they are trying to hide incontinence from people. I look at it like this, a diaper is a diaper no matter if it's worn by a baby, child, adult or elderly. Calling it something else for adults and elderly makes it feel like incontinence is something to be hidden from people. It's why I am one of those who call my diapers a diaper because that is reality and that's nothing to be ashamed of.

I do and they have large enough room to do a diaper change.

I never had that problem with Mega max diapers. Although sometimes the lower tapes will have issues, if I wear them too long.

Mines is kept in the open but I do keep them in the closet. Those that are kept in the open are their in case I mess or leak in my diaper and I need a diaper change.

I'm Iken, I have Urinary incontinence and diagnosed with urinary incontinence. I'm kept in diapers because it's the far better option than taking incontinent meds with those side affects

6 hours ago, John Davis said:

Iken, you are fortunate to be able to make it through an entire day on one diaper.

--John

Yeap and I can make a diaper last all the way to dinner time unless I poop really badly.

On 4/25/2023 at 6:54 AM, John Davis said:

Those who have a well-informed and supportive PCP are very fortunate.  However, Iken's PCP may be taking support to a new level with his diaper checks.

--John

My PCP is the biggest advocate for why I am in diapers. He's also the one that's comfortable with me being kept in diapers and not on any Incontinence meds. It's why he never had me be potty trained again and has kept me in diapers instead. 

On 5/28/2023 at 7:21 AM, John Davis said:

Dan, a thin cotton pullup over the diaper and under the plastic pants catches any overflow from the diaper.  Cotton will wick extremely well and prevents having a "pool" of pee in the plastic pants if the diaper leaks.🙂  The extra bulk is negligible.

I usually wear BetterDry with a BoostUps or NorthShore booster.  However, like Iken, for long car trips I usually put on a Megamax with a BoostUps booster pad.  I do add a thicker cloth pullup over that (plus plastic pants)

--John

I wear diapers with boosters because I want to make sure I can make it though the entire day without ever having to do a diaper change during the day. Just to make sure I can make it to dinner time for a diaper change.

8 hours ago, John Davis said:

Interesting how long Slomo and Iken are able to last without a change.  I stay well hydrated and am a heavy wetter.  I usually need to change at about 6 hours and rarely risk going longer than 7 ½ hours.  However, on long car trips if I "diaper heavy" I usually can last for 12 hours.  Otherwise my changing habits are similar to Scarth.

--John

That's cause I wear diapers with boosters and I wear the Megamax diapers with Eterna boosters from Northshore. 

For me, I wear a diaper with 4 boosters that I can make it last for the entire day unless I poop or leak in them. Normally for me, in the morning, I get up, take my diaper off, shower, then make my bed and then put my Megamax diaper with 4 boosters on. Have breakfast and then go about my day. Only time I change, is if I leak or take a poop in my diaper after 12 to 21 hours, I change again for night time and I get ready for bed.

I know a few times it would irk me when Nurses call my diapers briefs but I always tell them I wear diapers and not ashamed to call them diapers. I know nurses that have told me that they don't call them diapers because they think it makes people feel ashamed of being in a diaper. I often tell them a diaper is a diaper regardless if it's being put on an infant, child, teen, adult or elderly.  To me, I am not ashamed of wearing diapers and not humiliated for wearing them.

16 hours ago, John Davis said:

I am so frustrated by medical practitioners who refuse to use the word "Diaper," claiming that it is humiliating for their patients.  As Slomo indicated, it feeds the continuing stigma.  If we cannot educate the doctors, how will we educate the general public?

In many rehab and assisted living facilities the staff are prohibited from using the word "diaper."

Too many people still feel that being identified with wearing a "diaper" means that they have lost their adulthood or maturity and somehow have reverted to being infantile.

--John

How do you think I feel, when medical staff refuse to use the word diaper. I often think it's humiliating to call my diapers a briefs, despite me insisting it's a diaper. It feels into the stigma that we're tying to fight against. To me a diaper is a a diaper regardless if it's a baby, child, teen, adult or even an elderly person is wearing. Calling it sometime else makes it worse for those who are kept in them. It reinforces stereotypes and notions about those who wear diapers. The problem is that too many people in society are stuck on the old notions of what diapers means. Many think that only babies wear diapers when in reality anyone who has an incontinence medical condition wears diapers.

For me, I am not ashamed of wearing diapers. I know they are diapers and in my mind, diapers are normal for those who are Incontinent. Being in diapers, I know I have not lost my adulthood. Diapers allows me to have a normal life without fear or shame.

Acceptance for me is being able to call a diaper a diaper and not a brief. Calling a diaper a brief, stigmatizes people like me who wear diapers.

That's a tough one.

For me being kept in diapers, many times where the biggest issue for me is where's a safe place for me to do a diaper change. Being in diapers, I am always mindful as to how long I can safely wear a diaper before I am forced into a diaper change. Often, diaper changes do take a lot out of me because the amount of time it takes to change out of a diaper. However, I know that being kept in diapers is the price to pay for not having wet pants.

16 hours ago, Incont said:

Rarely leak in public, but absolutely hate it.

I rarely leak and have figured out when I reach the point that I am about to leak and I change my diapers on a schedule

Not me and I am not ashamed if I leak in my diaper. If I leak in my diaper, it means I used them very well and I should consider getting thicker diapers

I’m at a point now where I don’t care if people hear or see my diapers. It’s why for me, being diapered is totally normal for me.

I do believe that their is a link between stress and Incontinence 

For me, the pros of being kept diapered is that I never have to stop to use the bathroom because being incontinent, I was never potty trained to begin with. I also find bathrooms disgusting. Having a diaper let's me go on with life without having to worry about the nasty bathroom. Diapers reduce my stress, anxiety and helps me relax and stay calm. I love how diapers make me feel and look. Most importantly, they let me have a life and let me be active without having to worry about where's the nearest potty.

Cons, diapers are very expensive. I know my wardrobe had to change and adapt to being in diapers. They often get hot and sweaty in the war, months but after being kept in them permanently, I am use to wearing them in the summer. Medical grade and store diapers suck and are horrible. It took me years to overcome the fact that I am always going to be kept in diapers, which is no longer a problem for me.

Overall, it's been rough for me in the beginning to wear diapers but after a while, I have gotten use to them and have been extremely comfortable in them