Hi!

[Diaperbutt09]

Hi! I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm Tony, and I'm also on Spandi as Diaperbutt09. 

I've had and overactive bladder since I was about 6 years old, having a lot of urgency and flare ups that would make me run to the bathroom every few minutes. Doctors kept shrugging it off saying I was too young to be dealing with bladder issues so I gave up trying to fix it. At around 32, I started experiencing leaks, and a few years later decided to talk to my doctor about it just to make sure it was nothing serious. That led to me finally getting a diagnosis of OAB and urge incontinence this year.

My incontinence is pretty mild, but I found diapers to be the best way for me to feel control over my bladder, which is something I've never had. I've been wearing diapers 24/7 for over 5 years now and consider myself a DL. How both my bladder issues and DL side fit together has caused a bit of confusion for me overall. I've been looking for online support groups where IC members aren't shamed for also being DL while I learn to accept both my diagnosis and enjoyment for wearing diapers. 

[Slomo]

Hi and welcome. Sorry to hear that. I got the same treatment from urologists at 18 after an auto collision. So I know how frustrating it is.

I was also abdl before then, so I know how that can mess with us and make us think the physical problem might be a mental excuse. That was almost 30 years ago for me though, so I've had a while to figure things out. Feel free to ask me anything, my "experience" can probably help.

[Slomo]

Oh. I'm also on SPANDI, also as Slomo there too.

[Diaperbutt09]

@SlomoWhat I feel I'm struggling with the most is the thought that I'm faking it, or that I caused the leaks that I do have as a way to have an excuse to wear diapers.There are lot more conflicting ideas behind the whole thing but that's the gist of what I've been struggling with. I'd be curious to hear your struggle with it and how you were able to move past that. Feel free to PM me if you prefer to keep it private. 

Edited December 29, 2025 by Diaperbutt09

[Slomo]

 

On 12/29/2025 at 12:10 PM, Diaperbutt09 said:

@SlomoWhat I feel I'm struggling with the most is the thought that I'm faking it, or that I caused the leaks that I do have as a way to have an excuse to wear diapers.There are lot more conflicting ideas behind the whole thing but that's the gist of what I've been struggling with. I'd be curious to hear your struggle with it and how you were able to move past that. Feel free to PM me if you prefer to keep it private. 

 

Apologies it took me a while to see this. As I mentioned, I grew up as a diaper lover. I fought this part of who I am all while growing up and thinking I was the only one, that it was immoral, disgusting, yada yada yada.

This, in part, led me to join the USMC. In hopes it would help me get rid of my compulsion for diapers (which we all know never works as it's ingrained). While in the Marines, I was involved in a really bad car wreck. Which is how I became urge incontinent. And I became mobility impared at the same time. 

So at first my doctor and I thought it was the mobility limiting my ability to get to the bathroom on time. Which was 1-3 minutes and it started hurting. 3-5 minutes and it was painful. Any longer and I'd be doubled over in so much pain I'd choose to pee myself just to make it stop huring.

I should have known better than tocthink ot was just my mobility, but actual urges too. Regardless, my doctor was the one who suggested temporary "just in case" diapers, so I went along with it. At least until my legs healed. All the while I secretely thought I had the perfect excuse to start wearing diapers again. 

But the real problem was I "could" hold it during an urge. It was painful for sure, but I had to choose to use my diaper. Yet I wanted to stop wearing them for good. So in my mind, I though I was making the excuse to choose wearing and using diapers. And that my urges were all just innmy head.

That went on for about 4 years. Until one day it just hit me. I had a legitimate physical need for wearing diapers. I also had a compulsive yearing to want to wear them too. So why the heck was I fighing against what I needed AND wanted. I've embraced diapers ever since.

[Lethdale]

On 12/27/2025 at 2:10 AM, Diaperbutt09 said:

Hi! I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm Tony, and I'm also on Spandi as Diaperbutt09. 

I've had and overactive bladder since I was about 6 years old, having a lot of urgency and flare ups that would make me run to the bathroom every few minutes. Doctors kept shrugging it off saying I was too young to be dealing with bladder issues so I gave up trying to fix it. At around 32, I started experiencing leaks, and a few years later decided to talk to my doctor about it just to make sure it was nothing serious. That led to me finally getting a diagnosis of OAB and urge incontinence this year.

My incontinence is pretty mild, but I found diapers to be the best way for me to feel control over my bladder, which is something I've never had. I've been wearing diapers 24/7 for over 5 years now and consider myself a DL. How both my bladder issues and DL side fit together has caused a bit of confusion for me overall. I've been looking for online support groups where IC members aren't shamed for also being DL while I learn to accept both my diagnosis and enjoyment for wearing diapers. 

I think you should go with what makes you comfortable.

I'm in a similar boat....urge incontinence, OAB, a bladder neck obstruction and an enlarged prostate.

I am constantly questioning my need....until I'm caught short and realise that padding up is a sensible precaution.

We're conditioned to see shame in our predicament....which isn't much help if we're stuck in any sort of queue or place far from a loo. Shame (and the opinions of others) doesn't keep our pants dry and anxiety at bay.

It's your life. Pad up if you desire to and, if you also gain a little enjoyment from your legitimate need.....all the better.

Edited January 17 by Lethdale