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YES!! Same here. Also agree with this. I don't mind whatever the reasons people have but I just can't contribute to some conversations.

That and it handles floods much better than it normally would.

So far this seems to help me out and the clumping is minimal for me. One more upside is they are much softer feeling so nicer to wear.

"-Remove your diapers from their packaging for at least a week before needing them. They come compressed, and allowing them to expand some means they will absorb and wick much better when used." 🤯 Bringing this back again because I learned a trick that adds to this tip from Slomo. I read in the comment section of a YouTube that you can put your diapers in the dryer on the lowest heat for 9 minutes and it will fluff them up. I tried it and it works! I would suggest only putting them in for 3 minutes. It does not take very much time. They absorb quicker and wick better after doing this. This is how they look.

Great marketing strategy! 😄

what Slomo and Dan said. If something is blocking the plumbing a severe bladder spasm will wake me up and if I move slightly I will flood immediately. This really sucks as I can only host a few oz before my bladder throws a fit. Thankfully it doesn't happen that much but it's also a concern if I ever re-gained some control and wanted to re-train my bladder to not wear diapers, nighttime would be a big problem,

I like the landing zone diapers. I didn't like how they scraped my hips until I found a way to position the tapes that works for me. I pull the extra plastic out the bottom of the waistband by the legs and position the lower tapes at an upward angle close to the top tapes. this makes it so the lower tape rests on the extra plastic where my hips bend so the tape doesn't touch my skin. That was my only real qualm with them. i like the snug fit that doesn't stretch and sag easily Most of the brands are also the super capacity ones also and that's what mostly determines my purchase of them.

Well said, and very much appreciated.

I had an overactive bladder during that period of my life but it had yet to cause any problems other than making me feel embarrassed, or kind of abnormal. Slomo: that sounds horrible. I'm sorry you had to deal with that, and on top of it, not having effective means to protecting yourself.

recently tried oatmeal powder. I found that I like the consistency and that the particular brand I got was unscented. .I'm not sure if it works better than cornstarch, but i thought it worked really well.. Worth a shot if you use powder a lot like me. I also like Caldecene powder. It contains zinc and creates a skin barrier like creams but is a dry powder..

Kind of finding myself in the same boat as you david49. I became incontinent while i was married and now am finding myself faced with the daunting task of navigating dating, and how to disclose my medical issues. I like the approach Slomo lays out. I did exactly this and dated a wonderful lady for a while. She was very understanding when I very nervously mentioned my troubles and she and I agreed that it didn't even matter. We liked each other and it wasn't going to keep us from "seeing where things go". We got to know each other and talked about everything. We even talked openly about my incontinence. In one conversation we had she told me I was "brave" for dating with all my issues, and that it "shouldn't stop me", but if she had the same problems she "wouldn't be able to date anyone" she'd be "too embarrassed to leave her house" I didn't take it any different than how she meant it at the time, but after more reflecting more, it really psyched me out. Confidence is paramount to putting yourself out there in the dating world. The ability to bounce back after being rejected, or feel worthy of acceptance is dependent on it. After that experience I have been less inclined to feel like sharing myself, and have been avoiding dating although probably more so subconsciously. I don't want to be alone, but sorting out the whole dating thing, and having the extra piece of sharing my medical issues is just more than I feel like dealing with most of time. I don't have any advice. Just sharing.

Sorry to hear of your troubles, and Hi! I'm sure it's disconcerting to have it just suddenly appear out of the blue. While I can't say my problems happened in one day, they did appear quickly. I've had issues with OAB for some years but not wetting myself. Then in the span of a couple years my body just sort of broke down. Took a lot of doctors and run around to get answers since it wasn't something they could immediately get an answer to. For me it turned out to be several combined issues that played into central nervous system disorder, which lead to my bladder wall becoming thickened giving me virtually no capacity. Incontinence was one of the first major things to go wrong, definitely the hardest one to take mentally. I am sorry you're struggling in that place now.

I've been trying new things since I have been wearing diapers (about 3 years) If I hadn't tried new things I would still be battling leaks with crappy store bought diapers. I like having a lot of options as things (even since i have been around) change or disappear off the market. I also like trying to find the "Best" value with efficiency, comfort, and price. this can be all kinds of combos of diapers with pads and plastic pants.

For sure. I use these at times. Love em. They fit me well and I basically abandoned Megamax for them. Before Megamax I used Abena M4. I actually noticed betterdry a while before I tridd them but weren't available at any of the places I shopped, and I didn't think they could be better than Megamax. They are though, IMHO. I've now found that I really like the InControl diapers from rearz. The fit and comfort is good for me. They also hold a lot and that is good for me as well.

Same with me. I have (mostly) figured out my needs and my timing on changes, but every now and then I get thrown for a loop and then it's just the worst.

Just a question about something I still struggle with. Wondering how folks in the group deal mentally if they have an accident while in public, at work, or around others. Seems like folks here have a range of attitudes towards things like this, just wondering how you react to situations like this and if anyone wants to share feelings about it. For me I feel something between apathy, embarrassment, and failure. It used to ruin my entire day and make me depressed. I would just want to go home, crawl into bed, and hide from the world. I don't feel as bad as I used to about it, but it is still one of the things I dread the most. It's a similar feeling when I have a bad leak in my bed. It feels like I failed at something.

Yep. That is a tough one. The inconvenience of it can be completely deflating sometimes. Sorry for your crumby day😒 For me it's when I am "in the zone" getting something done that i'm really focused on, and I can't tell that I am wetting myself until I am nearly leaking. Then having to stop and change is such a distraction and can ruin my motivation. Finding those windows of times where I feel both healthy, and motivated seem like they are few, so things like changing are energy and time spent that I wish I could be spending on other things. I feel ya.

When did they come out with Betterdry? I have only been using diapers for about 3 years and it was like a world was hidden to me before I started actively searching for answers and ordering things online. After leaking several times with Depends Night defense (my first go-to before my issues got worse than they could handle) I got super frustrated and and started reading and searching more. Then I find online supplies, then I start to see all the baby print diapers, plastic pants and so on. popping up in searches, and blogs where people spoke about ABDL stuff but also a lot of useful information. After getting over the shock value of it, I started learning a lot of tips and things I didn't have a clue about, booster pads, types of plastic pants, capacity ratings etc, Megamax, Betterdry...shoot, even how to not get diaper rash.

I might not have the best hearing but i believe that I don't make a lot of sound in a room with a lot of activity. Then, like others have said, if I do make a sound, who is going to put 2 and 2 together? If they do do have suspicion, why should I care. They would have to prove it, by asking me, or disrobing me. Either of those options are something nobody is likely to make. So no, not a big deal to me.

Which is funny because I think (some) of the same companies produce both adult and infant diapers. I think it again, goes back to customer demand. Because Depend sells junk and people buy it, there isn't a sense that they need to make any real changes to their design. There is a statistic that said something like 1 in 5 people struggle with overactive bladder.. out of that group there is a smaller group with some level of incontinence, and out of that group there is a smaller group that could use something like what we're talking. Since I am in that group, I would totally buy something that was as comfortable, and worked as well. However, I am a minority in the market. That is why I embrace the ABDL community. Because they demand bigger, better, and fun prints. I am thankful to be able to have the products available to me that were developed because folks demanded it. That is a fact that I wish more product developers, and incontinent people knew. If this was common knowledge more companies would be on that train and there would be a race to the best and cheapest.

This.

fit is one thing, but what about some of the features on baby diapers. more comfortable waistbands, better topsheets, etc. those things would be nice.

seems like that could almost be viewed as harassment or discrimination in some manner.

stress contributes to my condition being worse or better so by proxy contributes to my incontinence. I wouldn't say stress, adrenaline levels in the bloodstream, cortisol levels that are too high, or too low, would not be a root cause but could be a factor. Adrenaline has the opposite effect on my body where i nearly stop producing urine as a result. I would say that there would need to be another underlying condition such as weakness in pelvic floor, or some type of nerve malfunction.

This sounds like a nightmare. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. hopefully something get's figured out and you get a proper sized waste container. I wish folks that made decisions about these types of things were more considerate of the outcomes for those affected by them.