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In other forums, wearing diapers to a medical appointment is a much debated topic, particularly among those who are ABDL. As most(?) of us here are in diapers 24/7 for medical reasons, I would like to ask whether anyone has ever received adverse comments from a physician or nurse because they were wearing a diaper. As I usually list incontinence and diaper wearing when I fill out the forms for a new doctor, there is no "shock and awe" if I neeed to disrobe. I rarely am questioned about it except to ask whether I am managing it well. Usually the doctor asks whether I am beeing seen by a urologist. Surprisingly, my most adverse push-back came from my urologist. As any urologist should, he regards his mission as hopefully "curing" me and getting me out of diapers. He is a good physician but must feel that I represent his failure as he has not "cured" me and I continue to wear diapers.😱 Seriously though, he has agreed, although reluctantly, that I have sound reasons for continuing to wear diapers. What about you guys? --John

Hi all. Been bedwetting nearly my whole life. Now age 71. I live in Cleveland Ohio, USA. Have a fantastic day. Will be posting here when I can.

My urologist is okay. He will remind me every visit that there may be some surgery that might help, but he understands that I am reluctant and that I would rather leave well-enough alone.

I've been to a dozen different hospitals and surgery centers. Thankfully not a one of them was completely against diapers. A few nurses had wanted me to take it off when changing into that gown, but a little explanation of how incontinence works has always changed their minds. Depending on the surgery I've woken up without a diaper on. And some more nurses were hesitant to give me a new one. Though again, with some insistence I was able to get one.

Ridiculous yes, but true. Topic has been discussed on The Simon Foundation for Continence Web site. Fortunately such hospitals are rare. A medical friend (a PA) told me that many hospitals are overreacting against the risk of diaper rash as such incidents are tabulated along with bed sores and other factors in a hospital's ratings. --John

Yes I have seen my primary care and a urologist while wearing a diaper. Neither of them have ever said anything negative, but both mentioned that wearing “briefs” should only be a temporary solution for my issues until we can figure out a permanent solution. I’m not sure if it was to make me feel better, or if it was disapproval of me wearing diapers though.

i have been asked why i was wearing a diaper but have never had someone shocked that i was. last time i switched clinics and doctors it wasn't even on the med history form

@Incont I wear diapers 24/7 wearing them everywhere. In fact, my doctor was the one who I asked about wearing diapers in 2020, and I had asked for help in 2019 before joining daily diapers. he understood understood exactly why I wanted to do it that way, and has supported me since the beginning of this. All I would have to do was go into my doctor's office and make a good point, and as long as I can make a good argument most of the time he will support it. I love my doctor because my doctor is the type of guy that would say to me to me the word "NO" if I asked him for something that he didn't think I needed, and he would explain why. since my doctor is the one who helped me get the diapers and who helped me by adding diagnosis of incontinence to my medical records, he is fully aware of my condition as well as anyone who works in his office, and they are very supportive of that. he would not tell me anything about wearing diapers being bad, he understands that my CP is something that I can't control, and I told him that what I was afraid of was that I would get older, And as I stop doing certain things or I lose mobility, that it would be harder and harder for me to be able to get to the bathroom safely. when I told him that I wanted to wear diapers,, I started in 2019, became a member on daily diapers, got help from there, and then and then after talking to many people, I went back in 2020 and told a doctor I was going 24/7. @John Davis I have never received adverse pushback. Somebody may ask me why, the doctor about diapers in the 1st place, we had a frank discussion. What I like about my doctor is I can bring him anything and we can discuss it. In fact he praised me for having the guts to walk into his office and ask for help using diapers, because it takes a hell of a lot of gutsy says to be able to admit that you need a help and that you have a problem. I told him that wearing diapers would help me in so many ways, and that was getting tired of losing sleep, having accident, not being able to respond fast enough and all of this. Basically he agreed with me, and put the incarnance diagnosis on my records, not only that but he made it so that no one would even doubt that I need diapers, so no one should question me. As far as your urologist John, I can't understand why urologist would want you to to get out of diapers. sure, he's probably gonna wanna test you to see if there's any problems that can be taken care of by other means, But once the disease the decision has been made, and you wanna go with diapers for example, him wanting to get you out of diapers is a moot point, because that's not what a doctor is supposed to do, a doctor is supposed to work for you, and support you in whatever you want to do. a doctor is however someone who can give you advice and tell you that it might not be a good idea, but at the end of the day you have to make the actual reason and you have to move forward if that's what you want. Sometimes I think doctors make more money because for example Medicaid for example says that they something done, before they'll approve something. I remember somebody saying that I should go to urologist before I end up getting a proof of diapers, But then I had a long discussion with my doctor and I told him, if you don't know me by now, Then we have a problem, because you are the expert knowing conditions and my medical diagnosis, and you can write it exactly the way it needs to be so that I can get exactly what I need and what I want. I told him that I was sick and tired of having accidents and having problems, and that diapers were way that I could take care of that. He supported me all the way, And I told him that I did not want to have to go to a urologist and have them have to fix something that doesn't need to be fixed! sure I would wet myself or mess myself, but why would somebody want to tell someone who is using a diaper that they don't need it or whatever they say? I will repeat this: doctors work for you, and they can give you advice and give you support all the way, but in the end you have to make the medical decision that you think is appropriate, and most times when you talk to a doctor and you understand what it is that you're dealing with, you can make an informed decision. A urologist job is to try to help you, but if you want to wear diapers or if you think that what they're doing is not helping you, you have the right to resist or refuse. People need to realize that diapers are not the be all end all, in that they are bad, they are very helpful and can help people leave there worries at the door and live their life to the best they can, Because incontinence doesn't have them, 'cause they have control of their incontinence even if they don't have any bladder or bowel control. Our specialists that help you with stuff like that, and they do have experience with urology, but sometimes yeah they make it so difficult, as well as insurance companies that it's a wonder people don't go crazy. So yes, wearing diapers to a doctor's appointment is not a bad! I would rather wear them, and have my doctor aware of it, and then if for some reason I have to I have to use the diaper, I have the ability to change it. In fact, I have had a couple nurses ask ask me after a exam if I need to have my diaper changed, and they've offered to help me do it, but I refused when that is offered, because most times I'm all set. But if for some reason I needed it, I'm sure they could help me. Brian

@John Davis I have never heard of such a hospital that wouldn't have diapers for their patients, nor would they take care of that for their patients. " No diaper hospitals" to me would be kinda silly. Regardless of how many times people go in and out of the hospital, there will be people that are very sick, most people may need a services of a nurse to change them. This also may be due to incontinent or nerve damage or whatever else is causing a problem for an individual. just like somebody can't take all the diapers away because they may not be in favor of it, there always is a reason to have a diaper, there are reasons to want to wear a diaper, medical reasons even, So anyone who would think that a no diaper hospital would be a good thing is kind of silly. As far as the diaper rash and other things that happen, Those things are going to happen, and that is only because of the fact that if you leave a person in a diaper too long, the urine and fecal matter that you are sitting in is acidic, and would cause an acidic reaction with your skin, which causes the red blotches and everything else, as well as to be uncomfortable, And I can tell you that being wet from head to toe is not a good thing, and also being wet down below is no fun if you take your diaper off and you are uncomfortable. You end up taking care of that as soon as possible. My main concern is that there are people who have to wear diapers for whatever reason. they use the most cheapest diapers that they can get, And somebody in an insurance company somewhere that makes big Bucks common It's probably taking compensation or something is, is making recommendations that diapers need to be changed every two hours, which is a good thing, so somebody doesn't get a rash, but of course the diapers that they give you don't even last two hours, which makes a customer, which is a patient in this case, very uncomfortable and it is not the fault of the customer or the patient In this case that they cannot hold what they're supposed to hold, they are incontinent or do not have the control, which is why it is called incontinence. I have been in hospitals myself, many times, so many times I could probably make $100 every time that I remember all the time that I spent there $100 a day times the number of times I've been in the hospital would make me a millionaire. The idea that somebody would have to use the bathroom in a chuck is ridiculous, since even though a Chuck is supposed to be absorbent, it is nowhere near as absorbent as a diaper, and is not designed for that for that type of release. even if you have a good Chuck, it might keep the mess contained, but a truck is not a diaper and a diaper is not a Chuck, they are too specific things. Regardless of what happens, whether you use a diaper or you use a chuck in this case, you still have to change the patient, you still have to clean up the mess that the patient creates, by no fault of their own. the idea of being in a hospital is because you are somehow sick, or you need to have some sort of operation, so that is why you're there. once your operation or procedure is completed, the idea is that if you cannot go home to recuperate, you recuperate in the hospital. when you're that sick, you may end up having incontinence even if you are continent, so that could be an issue. In my mind the easiest way to keep a patient comfortable is to have the right type of diaper, the right type of to take care of that, and to have people that understand that you don't need to be changing diapers every five minutes, but you need to have good diapers so that you don't have to worry about it. when you have something that really hurts, or you have something that's oozing, you want to make sure that whatever it is is not causing you to be having rashes and other things. when I had my appendix out, They had a drainage bag on the side of my body to release all of the junk that was coming out. On top of the poison that was releasing, there was fecal matter and everything else coming out of the side of this fistula. if this was not kept clean and dry, this would cause me more trouble, so my nurses were right on top of it And if I was uncomfortable they checked it and then they tightened up this thing so that I could actually be comfortable for a few hours. It is important that a nurse take care of a patient, not cut corners to try to make money or profit. Diapers have a reason to be in existence and so do chucks, but using a chuck as a diaper is ridiculous because it is not a diaper, and is not as absorbent as a diaper and is not built that way. it might be absorbent but I doubt a Chuck would be that absorbent. Brian